Strap On Harnesses

What Are Strap-On Harnesses?

Right, so, the basics: strap-on harnesses are, at heart, wearable contraptions that hold a dildo or dong (or, you know, whatever attachment makes you grin). They let you take the lead in penetrative play, which opens the door to all sorts of new dynamics—dominance, submission, switching, just good old-fashioned fun. If you think only lesbian couples use them, think again. Same-sex couples, hetero pairs, solo explorers, anal play enthusiasts, people figuring out what they like—there’s no “type” for a harness user. They just work, and work well, for anyone who’s a little bit curious or a lot adventurous.

Styles of Dildo Harnesses

If you think all dildo harnesses are just a jumble of straps, guess again. There’s actually a ton of variety—probably more than you’d expect. And no, you don’t need a PhD in bondage to figure it out.

Brief-Style

Think of these like your comfiest pair of undies, except with a mission. Pull them on, slot in your toy, and off you go—no fiddling with endless buckles or snaps. Plus, you can wear them under clothes, so “surprise” doesn’t just mean birthday cake anymore.

Adjustable Elastic

If you’re not sure what will fit, adjustable straps on harnesses are your best bet. They’re basically the Goldilocks option—fit just right, no matter your body shape. Full-figured? No problem; plus size options exist and actually work. A little trial and error? Sure, but that’s half the fun.

Jockstrap

Jockstrap style strap on harnesses: less is more. Seriously, they’re minimal, they’re sporty, and they give you full range of movement. You want secure and sexy? This is it.

Full-Body

Ready to get a little wild? Full-body harnesses turn the whole thing up a notch. Straps go beyond your hips—sometimes over the shoulders or down your thighs—giving you support and letting you try positions you only thought about after a glass (or three) of wine. Is it for everyone? No. But if you like experimenting, it’s worth a look.

Why Use a Strap-On Harness?

People get caught up in “how” to use a harness and forget the “why.” Here’s the short version: strap on play is about what feels right for you, and maybe, just maybe, discovering something you didn’t know you wanted.

1. Connection: When you try something new together, it’s not just physical. It’s trust, it’s laughter, it’s figuring things out side-by-side (and sometimes upside down).
2. Empowerment: Ever wanted to be in charge? Or maybe give up control? Harness play flips the script—and sometimes your whole idea of pleasure—with a single buckle.
3. Versatility: One harness, endless sex toys, any fantasy. You’re not locked into one thing—mix and match, swap in new toys, see what clicks.

Finding A Great Harness

Honestly, it’s not rocket science, but it does matter. Comfort for the butt cheeks, compatibility, and a little common sense go a long way. First, any suction cup dildo should suffice as a harness compatible dildo.

Comfort and Fit

If it’s digging in or slipping around, you won’t have a good time. Look for padded straps for sensitive butt cheeks, soft edges, and real adjustability. Bonus if you can forget you’re wearing it until, you know, you really can’t.

Compatibility

Not all strap on harnesses fit all dildos. Check for O-rings that swap out, or wide “universal” fronts if you like bigger dongs. If you already have toys, measure before you buy. Saves a lot of awkward fiddling. There are even dildo harnesses that will accept a double dildo for those who like extreme fun. If a double dildo is what you are looking for, you may want to try out a strapless strapon. It gives not just the catcher but both the wearer and the catcher pleasure.

Material and Durability

Don’t cheap out here. Vegan leather, strong nylon, silicone—they all clean up easily and last way longer than the bargain-bin stuff. And when you’re in the moment, you want reliability, not wardrobe malfunctions.

Ease of Use

If you’re new to the game, start simple. Brief-style or basic adjustable strap on harnesses won’t leave you second-guessing what straps go where. Want it even easier? Try a harness & dong set—no decision paralysis, just fun.

Bringing a Harness Into Your Sex Life

Here’s where the fun really starts. A harness is basically a ticket to a whole new world in the bedroom—or wherever, really.

Role Reversal

Ever wondered what it’s like to flip the script? Being the giver, not the receiver, or vice versa, opens up new perspectives (and probably some inside jokes later).

Creative Positions

No one says you have to stick to missionary. A harness means trying out angles and moves you may have seen online (or dreamed up on your own).

Sensory Play

Throw in a blindfold, maybe a little restraint, and suddenly everything feels new. Harnesses play nice with other kinks—sometimes literally.

First Time With a Harness?

Take a breath. You’re not alone if you’re nervous. Most people are, even if they won’t admit it. Some tips from those who’ve been there, fumbled that:

1. Keep it simple: Don’t go full “Fifty Shades” right out of the gate. Pick something basic, easy to wear, and easy to clean.
2. Talk: Before, during, after. If you’re not sure what feels good or feels weird, say so. Turns out, nobody can read minds (yet).
3. Test drive: Try the harness on solo before bringing in an audience. Walk around the house in it. See how it feels. Laugh at yourself. Then get serious.
4. Lube up: Lube is your friend. No, really. You’ll thank yourself later.

Final Thoughts on Harness Play

Strap on Harnesses are kind of magical when you let them be. They make sex less about “how it’s supposed to be” and more about “what actually feels amazing.” Bodies are weird, preferences shift, and sometimes new sex toys turns a blah night into a story you can’t stop telling.
Go for quality sex toys that’ll actually last, treat yourself to a harness that has a snug fit, and don’t be afraid to experiment. Sometimes the best nights are the ones that don’t go as planned.

If you need a sign to give a strapon harnesses a shot, here it is. Try it. Transform your favorite dildo into a strap on. You might just surprise yourself.