
Do These 6 Things to Improve Your Sexual Confidence
Sexual confidence is a slippery thing; it can be hard to establish and even harder to hold onto. Culture and media put high expectations on people to be sexy, (but not too sexy!). We are often led to believe that our intrinsic human value is rooted in our sexuality, our sexual experience, and our sexual expertise. Consciously developing your sexual confidence, alone and with partners, may help you expand your sexual expression which feeds that confidence.
Try these six things and discover the difference for yourself.
Remember, it’s all in your head
Sext like you mean it
Expressing yourself sexually through words feels empowering and, as a result, contributes to a sense of sexual confidence. Find your voice and explore desire through sexting. Establishing and sharing your personal sexual vocabulary by text only can allow you to push your boundaries and say things you might otherwise not say. Exploring sexual fantasies with a willing sexting partner can really help you loosen up and get comfortable with your own desires. Comfortable means confident, and confident means sexy.
Consider the power of body language
Practice makes perfect
Masturbation is still a taboo subject for lots of people, despite the fact that most people do it regularly. Being an avid masturbator contributes to sexual confidence. Masturbation puts you more in tune with your body and its responses to stimuli and pleasure. Solo sex allows you to explore and understand your own body, which in turn equips you to show or tell (or both!) a partner what works for you and what doesn’t. Look at your body, touch your body, learn all its secrets, and revel in how wonderful it is.
Undress for success
Body image issues are a reality for a large portion of society. It’s a cultural wound that doesn’t see race, age, ability, or gender presentation. Overcoming body shame takes a lot of work and time. Embrace the journey instead of waiting to be at the destination because even slow progress is progress. Practice undressing in front of a mirror, snap some nude selfies (don’t share them without the other person’s express consent), or put on a sexy playlist and be your own private dancer. Remember that your value is not measured by your body. You are entitled to set your own beauty standards and reject socially prescribed standards.
Believe your lover(s)
If you ever feel plagued by insecure feelings about how your partner/lover perceives you, you are not alone. Even encouraging and affectionate partners and a bit of confidence, those days happen to the best of us. Worse, they chip away at our hard-earned sexual confidence. Take compliments at face value, and don’t get caught in your own negative narrative. Just like you don’t see their “imperfections,” they don’t see yours either. Your sense of your sexual self and the confidence you cultivate within yourself needn’t be defined by anyone but you. Anyone who can’t get on board with that doesn’t deserve to be a part of your journey.
Conclusion
Improving your sexual confidence takes more than one online article can contain, but it also isn’t rocket science. It’s never too late to work on your confidence, and it doesn’t have to improve overnight. If you are patient and make a focused effort to work on how you think and feel about yourself, your sexual confidence will grow. Don’t you deserve that? I think you do.
Do you consider yourself sexually confident? Why or why not? Let us know below!