Rough day, can’t sleep. You’re tossing and turning in bed and decide to masturbate to relax and get some sleep. Except it’s not doing the trick. Your wank is almost…boring!
Single or seeing someone, you can make masturbation interesting and fun again. All you need to add is a little kink.
Edge Yourself
Edging is a form of orgasm control where you turn on your vibrator or start rubbing one out, and just as you get to the point of no return – you stop. Full on, dead stop. No orgasm. No release. Your hips might push forward. You may even catch yourself whimpering or whining. Take a breath, calm yourself down, now begin again.
For some, edging is torturous – which is part of the kinky fun, if you’re into it. For others, it’s just a good way to prolong the inevitable and extend your five minute wank. Repeat the process as often as you can stand it. Once you’re at the point of no return, and you’re coming no matter what, you’ll find that your orgasm is stronger than usual.
Take Your Vibe With You
You probably don’t want to bring your hot pink dildo or masturbation sleeve with you to work. Instead, find a remote control vibe that you can wear and activate from your phone. If you try this out, make sure it’s comfortable and not too loud. Your first time playing with it shouldn’t be at a bar or in a quiet movie theater. Test this one at home first.
People in kinky relationships with a power exchange element tend to enjoy this kind of play. The top/dominant can tease their partner as much or as little as they like. The bottom/submissive has to pretend like nothing is going on while out in public. To take it an extra kinky step, sometimes it’s not about the tease or edging. A top may decide to bring their partner to the point of orgasm and see if they can be quiet about it out in public.
Masturbate On Command
You can do this in a variety of ways. Most commonly, you might be asked to touch yourself so your partner can watch. There you are, naked, ready for hot sex, and you’re asked to masturbate instead. If you’ve never done this for a partner, it might be a little embarrassing at first. Give yourself a minute to warm up, and you may forget your partner is watching.
One option is another way dominants and submissives sometimes get kinky with orgasm control. A bottom/submissive may receive a text or an email to masturbate at work or while on errands. No, this doesn’t mean slip a hand in your pants where people can see you. Instead, run to the bathroom which still has a slight element of danger, and rub one out. You’re masturbating because someone else wants you to in a semi-public way – two kinks at one time.
Get Permission
You can take this anyway you want. If you want to give you partner a little control, maybe you ask permission to touch yourself, to make yourself come. The other option is to ask for permission to have an orgasm. You’re on the brink, ready to explode, and you ask, “Can I come?” Hopefully they’ll say yes. Even better, you can ask for both to give up full control over the moment.
It’s important, if you want to play this way, that you talk to your partner first. If they’re not expecting the question, they may not respond in a good, kinky way. Once your partner agrees to play the game, you also need to follow whatever rules you set up. Will you stop if they say you can’t come? Will you refrain from touching yourself if they won’t let you masturbate?
Force Yourself
You know your body best and what toys get you to the quickest orgasm. Some people take it nice and slow, reveling in the build-up to their release. Others are methodical. To force an orgasm is to push yourself past a certain level of discomfort and bring on your climax much quicker than you’re used to.
Forced orgasms can be fast and dirty. You apply stimulation – with a sex toy or your hand – harder, faster, and higher than usual. The point is to make yourself come as quickly as possible. If you’re capable of multiple orgasms, the next step is to keep coming. High powered massagers like the Original Magic Wand are good for this. Once that first orgasm hits, keep the stimulation in place, let yourself feel the rest roll in like a tidal wave.
Conclusion
If your daily masturbation habit has gotten a bit boring, you don’t have to rub yourself the same way every time. Kink up your masturbation fun – with or without a partner – for more exciting, interesting, and maybe even bigger orgasms.
How do you make masturbation kinky? Let us know in the comments below!
