These days, you do not have to be in a committed relationship to have sexual pleasure. As someone who has been in a few toxic relationships over the years, trust me when I tell you that sometimes there is much less stress when you learn to pleasure yourself instead of staying in a bad situation. Your sex toy does not get jealous of other sex toys, does not get belligerent and start fights with other toys, and does not feel threatened by the mention of a family therapist.
In the wise words of my mother, “you can only suck and fuck so many ways, so many times, and in so many places before there has to be something more.” In other words, if sex is the only thing keeping you together, and you cannot stand each other any other time, it’s time to end it. You don’t need a sex expert to reach orgasm when using a sex toy.
Evaluating Relationship Satisfaction
When asking yourself how satisfied you are in your relationship, a good question to ask is if you are both good to and for each other. Do you look out for each other’s best interests, or is the relationship more one-sided? Can you have fun, and laugh, but still maintain your sexual satisfaction?
Are You Happy?
Ultimately, you control your happiness, so you alone know if you are satisfied currently. However, even in bad situations, people can view their partner with rose-colored glasses, constantly making excuses for their actions to other people, like they were just drunk. If you have found yourself in a toxic situation that no longer enhances your life, here are a few tips on why dildos might be a better option than staying with an abusive partner over the long haul.
For Sexual Health
First, sex toys are a way healthier option when looking at overall sexual health, because dildos do not sleep around or put you at risk of contracting sexual diseases like a partner that cheats. There’s zero risk of a sex toy getting you or anyone else pregnant. Just clean the dildo with sex toy cleaner after, especially if it has been exploring your butt.
Whatever You’re Into
Regardless of what you are into, there’s a sex toy for that. If you prefer penetrative sex with hard plastic, porous materials, or non-porous toys, glass, silicone, or vibrators, there’s a sex toy to enhance your sex life. Whether partnered or single, sex toys impact increasing orgasms. While you can openly communicate with your partner about which sex toys you desire, you can also keep it private between you and your dildo.
Cranking Up Orgasms
To increase orgasm, you can get chemicals involved, such as climax creams for the vagina. Increase the power of the vibrator to enhance passion with your lover from the bedside drawer. There are novel ways to use sex toys, and the dildo is always non-judgment.
Working That Toy
If you happen to play with your sex toys while working on the job, that’s up to you to explore. Not sure what kind of talk you may have to have with whoever, but make sure you’re not in the wrong. If it’s completely cool, like you work at home and are your boss, you don’t have to be in your bedroom to enter the world of sexuality by stimulating your body.
Buzzing At Work
You can even get your partners involved in using a sex toy at work, such as putting them in control of the phone app that operates that sex toy you stuffed down your panties. When will they hit the button to make it buzz and vibrate the way you like it? Anticipation is key.
History of Masturbation
Busting out a sex toy means someone is about to orgasm. Are you involved in a sexual relationship, or will you be maintaining passion through toys in your own hands? They used to say that you’re not supposed to masturbate, that it could cause hair to grow on your palms, and even made people believe they could be blinded when ejaculation squirts in their eyes, but we have since learned that orgasms decrease the stress in our lives: now masturbation is good.
Stop worrying if you are a good enough lover. Sex toys impact self-esteem because they will never talk down to you like you’re stupid, making you feel as if you do not matter. Stop trying to change everything about yourself to please a toxic partner and start buying more sex toys to please yourself without the worry of what someone else thinks.
Not Scared, Sexy
When you orgasm, you feel good. Instead of being scared of a partner, feel sexy with a toy. Being scared does nothing positive for you, but when you feel sexy, you feel confident; feeling your best always helps to boost your mood, which increases pleasure, so go out and have fun.
Sense of Vibrators
A vibrator is committed to your relationship, always ready when you are, always hard, knowing exactly where to go to hit your g-spot the way you like it. Vibrators will not hit, smack, kick or abuse you, will not ask you for money, and will not be seen frequenting the bars. While sex toys might not be the best for conversation, they will listen to your venting.
Idea for Pleasure
Regardless of any mean things partners have ever said, a vibrator will not say that. They don’t side with your partners; they are there for you, whether you want them in your bed or at the top of a mountain after a long hike through the wilderness. They are into your body and will explore every area you want them to increase desire and sexual satisfaction.
Too Many Toys
While it’s true that you can become overly reliant on sex toys, as you don’t have to adhere to their schedule, make them dinner, iron their clothes or listen to their ranting conspiracy theories, sometimes, it’s worth it. You can become attached to your toys because vibrators know how to get you off, and you know what to expect, as there’s not that surprise of what’s hidden underneath the clothing; they’re always hard with no excuses of being sick.
Does that mean that you can have too many toys? Not really; it just means that some partners might not be as satisfying as a good vibrator, which might make a partner feel bad if you are in a relationship. If you are steadily using sex toys, switch up to a human; it’s not like the human will constantly vibrate on your g-spot the way your vibrator does, either.
Be open with your partner, talking to them about what you like in your favorite toys. Bring them into the equation, or kick that abuser out of your life and settle in with the toys. Again, a vibrator will not make fun of you, make you feel bad, or bug you to do something you don’t want to do, so why would you settle for a partner who treats you badly if you can have a toy?
What’s Your Favorite?
There are too many toys to say one is my concrete favorite, as new toys are released on the market daily. A rabbit vibrator or triple pleaser is always a classic for a woman, while a man might like the virtual vibrators with online interactives. Maybe you want to replace your partner with a lifelike doll, that does not argue with you, talk back, or complain.
Even cuddling can be completed with a lifelike torso. That’s better than cuddling up with someone who thinks you are a bank and only seems to talk to you when they want something. Sex toys will not ask you for anything, but they will increase sexual satisfaction.
Want to bounce up and down on a dildo attached to a ball, pretending to be a kid back in gym class? Maybe you want to invest in a sex swing while combining it with the joy you feel when you ejaculate. Have you considered the vast array of butt plugs on the market, carefully discovering the difference between each one to explore which one is your favorite so that you know?
Have you discovered the world of electrostimulation? Do not discredit that when thinking of new ways to enhance your masturbation. Add a little electrical stimulation while wearing nipple clamps, and find your tolerance for pain while giving yourself some shocks.
Sick of being asked where you are, what you were doing, or who you were with? A sex toy will never interrogate you. If you want to increase the number of orgasms in your sex life while decreasing the drama, sex toys are the answer you have been seeking all along.
Halloween is always a good excuse to hold someone close. Whether cuddling up to watch a scary movie, huddling in close during haunted houses, or curling up together for a hayride, the chill of autumn with the thrill of Halloween equals a chance at romance. Be the cuddle post when your partner reaches out for comforting support, and ignite those flames of passion. At Jack and Jill Adult, we love giving you ideas for the holidays, so check these costume and sex toy tips to sexy up your Halloween!
Play Dress Up
Dress up like a stranger. Put on a mask, ring the doorbell like a trick-or-treater, and start some role-play fun. Where are you going to put your treat for your partner to eat???
Sexy Halloween Costumes
Halloween is as good an excuse to get as sexy as possible as any, so drum up your best sexy Halloween costume ideas to see if you can win the best sexy Halloween costumes contest. Coming up with a sexy costume is pretty easy, as it’s dressing as skimpy as possible, then pop some animal ears on top of your head and maybe a tail and g-string. Some take the Greek theatre philosophy that leaving it up to the imagination makes it even wilder than showing everything all at once, so get creative with it, no matter your body type.
Halloween Party Star
Be the star at costume parties by getting some classic ideas for dressing. Shop with your partner, and change who is the man versus the woman in the relationship. You cannot go wrong with a skin-tight catsuit, as leather and latex make everything better year-round.
More Sexy Costumes
Don a cape with little else, and see if you can be the sexiest pair at the party. Shop for a sexy belt, opt for hot ladies’ wear and be the main menu for sexy bunny ears during the spooky season. Little Red Riding Hood grew up to be hot, throw on a sexy Mad Hatter hat, dress all in pink with bubbles, and don’t forget to try to scare the heck out of little kids as a sexy zombie.
Women’s Lib Costumes
You can support women’s liberations while still looking sexy. Think of strong female movie characters like Harley Quinn and Wonder Woman. Even Betsy Ross can be sexy sewing, and Rosy the Riveter also has that sexy working-class woman look that can be a turn-on.
Sexy Big Girls
I don’t care if you are XXL, as Halloween is the time to hide in a costume, calling out that inner confidence as if people don’t like it; who cares? Your size does not matter, as you can still look perfect in your coverage, even busting out a short skirt that will make heads turn.
Hunky Big Dudes
The same goes for men who wouldn’t usually come out of their shells, as Halloween is the time to order that Amazon outfit, spray on some white or red hair dye, act as confident as the heroes in the movies, and try to get ready for some love. It’s not about the sizes so much as how cool your costume is at the parties, so get creative, reveal your personality, and you might be amazed who wants to grab on for a ride. Of course, one size does not fit all, so apply your inner feeling and check any restraints to be yourself, the only one in stock; live it up.
It’s Fantasy Time
Halloween is the time to live out those inner fantasies. Dressing up is the first step for some great role-play, so how else can you kick it up a notch? Might I recommend electrostimulation?
Scary Movie Fantasy
Tie each other up. Play out a scary movie with a sexual twist. Fall is the best time to act out vampire and werewolf fantasies.
It’s Bondage Time
If you have not explored the world of bondage, Halloween is as good a time as any, as blindfolding your partner only adds to a scary scenario, such as a haunted house or scary movie playing in the background. When you don’t know what’s happening next, the heartbeat increases as the fight or flight response kicks in, wondering what could be lurking around the corner for an innocent victim tied up with love cuffs, bear flesh exposed. There’s no telling what could be waiting, and whether it’s fur and leather, hot candle wax and ice cubes, or even some attachments from that electrostimulation, get ready to orgasm hard.
Bob For Fun
Put a new twist on some classic Halloween games. Instead of bobbing for apples, try bobbing up and down on your partner’s rod. Instead of pin the tail on the donkey, blindfolded partners can try to insert a butt plug into their tied up partner.
Carve Up Pumpkins
Go old school, and get a couple of pumpkins to carve with your partner. Challenge each other to carve out your fantasy into the pumpkins. See who can get the sexiest pumpkin carved.
The Great Pumpkin
If you are lucky enough to be able to find a gigantic pumpkin, you can get your loved one riled up by jumping out of it in a skimpy outfit. It’s like a candygram, only for Halloween, and if you cannot find a giant pumpkin to fit you, get one of those oversized cakes and jump out of it.
Pet Dress Up
Nothing is sexier than finding some accessories for your pet to match you. Regardless of pet color, there are many ideas for pet costumes, so why not have your pet look as perfect as you? While having a pet is optional, feeling as if you want someone to discover you is simply hot.
A Cereal Killer
Halloween is the perfect time to bust out Count Chocula cereal. Make some sticky marshmallow treats with it, or simply pour it on the bed and have sex on it. Either way, it’s a small-sized treat that can be fun to eat from each other’s orifices and other places.
Pop Up Scare
Jump scares and pop-up scares are a fun thing to do during the spooky season, so set some traps for your partner and see if you can get their heart racing a bit. Have someone naturally grotesque jump out from behind the porch at unsuspecting trick-or-treaters. See if you can scare the kids enough to drop their candy, which is more to pass out to the next ones.
Be A Kid
Don’t forget to channel your inner child. Go trick or treating, and see who will give you candy. With a big enough mask, they won’t be able to tell how old you are, so try it!
Be a Mermaid
Hold your breath while wearing a mermaid outfit underwater. See if you can jump out of the pool to scare people. Everyone loves a sexy mermaid; it might be hard to walk in a tail.
From the Trees
Hang from the trees like a monkey and wait for your unsuspecting partner. Jump down and try to scare them. Chase them into the bedroom and see if they will take advantage of you.
Hide Your Affairs
Nothing is scarier than hooking up with a neighbor, thinking that you are alone, then your partner jumps out of the closet to bust you. When you think you are slick cheating, be aware that your biggest fears can also come true this time of year. Be forewarned!
Sexy Caramel Apples
Get all sticky, gooey, and gooey with some warm caramel. Put some on apples, dress up the apples as sexy as possible, and put a little caramel on your lover. Make sure it’s not too hot, then lick up the sticky sweetness off of them and see where that leads the two of you…
It’s no secret that people claim that skinny people get party favors in life and dating. Try to find the overweight women telling the news. It’s few and far between, as people prefer fit people.
That does not mean you need to give up on love if you are overweight. The key to happiness is being comfortable in your body, regardless of size. Confidence is sexy.
Listen up, fat women. I don’t care if you are morbidly obese or just have a little extra weight. You need to love your body shape, and your romantic partner should support your physical appearance, as we do not need to promote disordered eating to be thin people.
A Big Girl
Being a big girl, having more than a few extra pounds has made a difference when I navigate life. From having less selection in romantic partners to longing for that hourglass shape from the college years, do not focus on a bad thing. Build your confidence, as you can still have sex, still be in relationships, and still have a pretty face to increase your self-esteem.
After a heart attack at only 24 from medication prescribed to me after my cliff diving accident, I gained weight, a significant amount, that I seemingly could not seem to lose, no matter how many times I had started dieting. My problem was never fast food intake, as I tried to eat healthy to prevent weight gain, but it never seemed enough. I would fluctuate.
Trust me, I know the difference between how people look at you when you are in shape versus fluffy. I constantly hear about my weight. I had to practice self-love and self-care.
Understanding A Yo-Yoer
Contrary to what some ex-boyfriends may have thought, a fat person can lose weight. Mind-blowing concept, I’m sure, but it can, and does, happen. I’m a yo-yoer, so I know all too well.
Surprisingly, not everyone understands the term yo-yoer, so I will explain that a yo-yoer is someone whose weight fluctuates up and down like a yo-yo. I certainly did not come up with the term, but as soon as I heard it, I knew that applied to my weight over the years. I can go from fat to skinny and back to fat again.
It can tie in with trauma, which mine does. See, when you get fat, people don’t look at you the same as when you’re in shape and skinny. When they don’t look at you, it’s like you can disappear for a bit. It really effects your dating life.
Depression and Bulimia
Sure, it’s a fight, and a struggle when you do want to get noticed again, as losing weight does not happen overnight. That’s when depression hits, as you realize it’s going to take a while, so you eat more. Admittedly, in the past, I had turned to what would have been considered bulimic options, which would include me camping out in the gym for four to six hours each day, but I did not have time to do that again.
While most people can do bootcamp or extreme exercises when you have multiple extensive injuries from an accident, your mind likes to think you can do that type of stuff, but your body says no. After being told I’d never walk again at 19 years old, even after proving doctors wrong, there’s a limit on how much I can physically handle before my body gives out on me. Ah, there’s nothing quite so sexy as when the old hip locks up, the entire leg freezes, and it causes me to drop like a dead buffalo randomly.
Words Like Fists
Start a diet, attempt to make strides, drop a few pounds, and attempt to walk into the boyfriend’s motorhome. He stops me at the door, wide-eyed. “No, you’re so fat, you will pop the tires on the RV.”
He laughs and calls it a joke. Nearly a decade later, I’m still not laughing. Words can hurt like fists.
What’s the Secret?
Does everyone want to know what’s the secret to losing weight? How did I finally start to turn the corner? What was that kickstart to get me motivated and pumped up to make a needed change in my life?
It was not the people who would nag me about being overweight. It was not the boyfriend who noticed me losing weight and would purposely only want to eat fattening stuff to control me further. This time, I was not even killing myself for hours at the gym as I did in the past.
I got rid of my gym membership, which worked out so much that I merely injured everything at once. My meniscus was messed up, plantar fasciitis flared up, torn rotator cuff, cyst, and a tear in my hip joint, all hitting me simultaneously to the point where it’s like, “no, you cannot use the machines at the gym.” Going back to basics, I bought a house with a pool, as aqua therapy works best for me.
Luckily, my sensei from martial arts had taught me modified exercises after my accident, teaching me some tricks that would allow me to do my kicks in the water when I could not do them on the land. The biggest, cheapest trick for a pool is simply using empty milk jugs to work out with, using the resistance of them floating when empty, pushing them down in the water, or filling them with water to lift like free weights.
First World Solution
While some people might think of weight loss surgery as a first-world solution to weight loss, mine was way less invasive. It’s called working with a professional sports team. Thank you, world-class chefs!!!
Granted, not everyone has access to a few different chefs with around-the-globe influences to make perfectly portioned meals high in protein and low in sugar. Still, anyone can modify their diet to simply cut out sugars and increase proteins. It’s not all eating meat like a caveman; as one chef commented, “these boys will eat the heck out of some brussel sprouts.” I remember one player them calling baby lettuce heads when he was trying to recall the name of them.
Having a buffet, I still had to make the right choices. Skip the fried foods. Lots of veggies.
Befriend the chefs. Be nice to them. They might make you something special if you’re nice. Hows that for weight loss?
What to Eat?
Before joining the team, I remember wandering through the grocery store, wondering what I should eat. I knew I was trying to make a change in my diet, I just wasn’t sure where to start. Finding myself jumping on diet trends, thinking I was making good choices; there are so many hidden sugars.
The difference is going to where the selections are made for you, taking the “what to make” part out of it. They didn’t give fast food as an option, though players could order that if they wanted to stray and pay. Instead, their options consisted of fresh fruit, pre-portioned out, so you’re not bingeing a whole bag.
They always had a couple of vegetable options. When it’s right in front of you, already made and ready to eat, it’s easy to point, have them slap it on the plate, and eat the right thing. Salad is always an option, so even if you don’t like dinner options, make a salad you know is healthy.
While they had a selection of grab-and-go sandwiches, the thing I picked up on is that they loaded their sandwiches with meats, making them more protein than carbs. Sure, there was still bread, and different kinds at that, though often packed with nuts or seeds for an added punch. They had some low-carb wraps and various healthier options but did not always have a vast selection of desserts.
Healthy Dessert Options
Occasionally, they would have some desserts for holidays, birthdays, or whatever reason. It’s not like they’re so strict that they can’t have an occasional bite of chocolate. However, it’s worth noting that the chefs went out of their way to strive to include a few healthy dessert options at times.
Yogurt parfaits were a regular thing, though they were packed with layers of nuts, granola and fruit. It’s not like it’s hard to stir nuts, granola, or fruit into yogurt at home. You don’t even need an oven.
My favorite, and one thing I pestered one staff member for regularly, as she would indulge me, was a variety of chia seed puddings. Having tried several times to make it at home, each time unable to get the consistency right, I begged her to tell me the secret. “Put a little yogurt in it so it’s not watery.”
One-third yogurt, one-third almond milk, and one-third chia seed blended, and let sit overnight. Create your puree of whatever fruit you have around to layer it with, and throw in extra fruit chunks and nuts. This is probably my go-to for breakfast, and I have put so many spins on it already I just keep going.
Cut Down Portions
I was starting to have some health issues before ever working with the sports team, so I had been losing weight because of it. While teaching at the college, I was exposed to a sick student and wound up in the hospital, puking so much that I developed a hernia. The lingering effects, for whatever reason, affected my menstrual cycles, making me extremely nauseated during that time of the month, to the point I could not even hold water down and was simply doing rinse cycles, chugging a gallon, just to puke it right back up, trying to rinse out whatever acid was in there.
It got to the point where I was scared to eat. Solid foods were not an option for weeks at a time. Honestly, that started weight loss, which is not a healthy way to lose weight.
My doctor said it’s lucky I was overweight when it happened. When you’re fat, losing weight is not an issue until it becomes an issue. We’re watching to ensure that it is not bad, which is not easy to do when you don’t have decent health coverage, so it’s like a hope and a prayer with diet.
One Little Ingredient
Luckily, I’m friends with doctors. I have been blessed enough to be able to turn to some of them off the record when I need to, though it’s not like they’re always available either. Doctors tend to be busy.
It’s cut down portion sizes, cut out sugars and heavy oils. Having a history of food allergies, I opted for a DNA test from my hair for allergies with various skin and blood test results. Sure, I had to send it off to Europe, but it was less than $100 and revealed an olive oil marker.
While it’s not like I was allergic to the point that having some olive oil would kill me, when I thought about foods I ate when I got sick, olive oil was a common enough thread to try cutting it out. When I did, it helped. Being mindful of one little ingredient made a significant digestion difference.
A Gynecologist’s Advice
When I was working as managing editor at a medical publication, I had been talking to a doctor on the regular that had diabetes, and he schooled me on the realities of what diabetes can be like. He was to the point where he had to go for regular retina injections and was legally blind from the disease. Hammering it home that to some people, this can be prevented, watching an eyeball get stabbed with a massive needle, fluid filling the eyeball, that can be a little motivating, like yeah, no alcohol either then.
This gentleman was a retired gynecologist who had delivered many of my friends’ children, including the guy I toured on Ozzfest with. “It was so cool when he delivered my daughter. He showed up on one of those Ninja crotch rocket things, and half an hour later, she’s out, and he’s zooming off.”
Constantly nudging the doctor to tell me stories and confessions of what it was like to be deeper into most of my friends than their husbands and boyfriends, he would indulge me from time to time. I will probably have to write a different story about that. He’s an interesting character in the larger plot.
Let’s say his ex-wife worked with him and was none too happy when a lady showed up in lingerie and heels for her appointment. He also told me the joys of getting meconium in his mouth while delivering a baby one time. For those who don’t know, meconium is greenish-black baby feces from the womb.
Digest that for a minute. Still hungry? Let’s talk about weight loss.
Eat less and move more. Make better choices. No fast food.
While I have gone up and down several times in my life, I always knew I would lose weight (and probably gain some back) again. Still, the average people on the street seem to forget that fat people can lose weight or that skinny people can get fat. Add a birth, and you know what can happen to that prom queen who used to be so skinny, Minnie; after popping out a tribe, she has gotten a bit wide. Especialy if her fast food intake was high during pregnancey.
How You’re Treated
The most significant difference between being skinny and fat is how other people treat you. When you’re fat, people love to tease you, throw your insecurities in your face, to try to control and manipulate you. They expect you to be fat and depressed, naturally desperate, so they see you as an easy target to try, destroying any self esteem you had left.
Otherwise, they expect you to be fat and jolly. Go with the flow of what others want. Fat and happy. More weight gain.
I’m Not Barbie
I’m not Santa, and I’m not Barbie. Skinny people get the party favors in life. They get invited to places. Fat people don’t. They get to sit at home. Don’t come out, Quasimodo!
No, screw that. I’m the one who has always broken tradition. I could be fat and still get regular dick or pussy, even with a few extra pounds.
I’m not staying home. My work requires me to go out and about. It’s not an option to sit depressed.
Games People Play
However, the games guys play, and girls play them, too! Some girls only want fat girls around to make them look good, but if you should lose weight, you might not have that same connection. Other girls only want skinny chicks around to make them more marketable in a group, catching castoffs.
Drive around and look for bumper stickers that say, “no fat chicks” if you don’t believe me. It’s okay for a guy to gain weight, but if a girl does, oh, mister. Might as well get her a dozen cats and go hide out.
Thing is, once a guy has treated me badly, said something about my weight, or made me feel uncomfortable, those are the guys I don’t want to let know that I lost weight. As a yo-yoer, I know that those guys who were just making fun of you will now be trying to bang you. My mentality is more of the thought that if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve my best.
Today, a guy I banged a year ago sent me a random message about fat chicks aimed at me. Now that I am down 85 pounds from the last time he saw me, do you think I want to let him know? If he’s sending me that type of crap, then no, I want him to still think of me as fat and forget my number.
Throw Another Bone
Oh, but shouldn’t I throw him another bone if he banged me while I was fat? No. Not really.
Head games are not my interest. Down-talkers are never helpful. While skinny people might be able to lose weight, someone with a personality flaw might not be able to change that, and if someone is simply rude by nature, they will likely continue to be that way: you can’t change that as quickly as your weight.
Finding Someone New
Why does it seem like most people will default to online dating when they want to find someone new? One experience I had was with a guy from Syria I met on dating apps, whose opening line was blaming me personally for the war in his country, so he thought I owed him to get knocked up and get him a green card, which was memorable, but for the wrong reasons: block. Another guy I met on dating apps told me he was on death row for four of the past five years, and just before he was about to be killed, they exonerated him, allowing him to be free, single, and ready to mingle.
the last one I met on dating apps said he was living with his girlfriend still, had no car, and was looking for a new place to flop. While these might make for exciting stories, they might not be my first choice for finding dates. We might want to increase our love life, but I have met so many rude people online dating.
What People Remember
People tend to remember when others are rude or make fun of them, as people tend to remember the positive and negative. Never make fun of someone for being fat, as they will remember who made fun of them and who was nice to them. Being overweight or even morbidly obese can change, but as they say, there’s no fixing stupid. So many people will be extra cruel in online dating because they are not face to face. Cowards.
Who I might throw a bone to are the ones that were nice to me, who didn’t talk down to me, which was rare on these dating apps, though chances are, if there was a spark, you would feel it regardless of weight. For the record, there is a polite way of letting someone know that you do not agree with their actions without being a bully.
No Reminder Necessary
Usually, when people are fat, they know. They don’t need a reminder. They don’t need you to tell them, point it out, or try to manipulate them because you think they feel a way due to being fat.
Physical With Friends
Want to help someone lose weight? Be a friend. Invite them to do physical fun stuff with you.
Let’s go for a beach walk. Let’s go to a drum circle. There’s a yoga class I’d like to try.
Inviting someone and making them feel welcome and comfortable can lead to more positive changes. Being there for someone, letting them know you’re in it with them, and doing an activity with them can be positive growth that people need. Conquer a challenge like white water rafting, then brag about it.
Go axe throwing. Learn a few tricks.
Start Out Small
Start small. Do things on the regular. Go outside, walking far, so you have no choice but to walk back.
Though I may have lost some weight, I still have more to go on my journey. It’s funny how you judge yourself more when you start to lose weight. Don’t get down on yourself; keep up your motivation by encouraging yourself, as results are not always instantaneous.
Having friends and a support system helps, but you don’t need it. It only takes individual motivation. You lead your own life, so you might as well make yourself as sexy as possible and enjoy it.
If you have been trapped inside your house, hunkering down for Hurricane Ian, it’s time to get out there now that the danger has passed. After being cooped up long enough to feel like Quasimodo, it’s time to check out the light of day. Simply emerging from what’s remaining of your home is enough of a first step to meeting someone, as there are rubbernecks plenty, people aimlessly walking around with cameras, looking to talk to just about anybody.
It’s Permanently Friday
It’s a permanent Friday, as everyone has found their schedule clear enough to hook up. It doesn’t matter if you have been burning the midnight oil until the hurricane hit because now it’s time to dust off that sex toy box and hook up for some hurricane sex. This is your time to shine, so get out there.
Three Easy Steps
First step: WALK OUT OF THE HOUSE. Second step: stand around outside long enough, and you will run into someone randomly who is also lonely and bored. Third step: offer to help.
That’s all you have to do. Offer to help. Other lonely people are doing the same thing.
Whatever You’re Into
It doesn’t matter if you are into same-sex partners, trans, bi, straight, or whatever; people are open to it right about now. In the wake of the hurricane, people are bored, not having to answer to their bosses quite yet, and they’re open to striking up a conversation. They have nothing but time on their hands, so why not have them put their hands on you?
Can’t Thank Enough
Why do I say offer to help? Now, you’ve become a hero. How can they ever repay you?
Well, banks are closed from the hurricane. People are short on cash. Might as well hook up.
Sticky Hurricane Sex
How about some little quickie hurricane sexual encounters? Hope you stocked up on rubbers before the storm day romp, as there are not a whole lot of stores to run to for condoms. You don’t want to suffer real-life consequences of raw sex because of your new friends-with-benefits situation.
Creative Animalistic Sex
Nobody has their clothing neatly arranged, and it’s not like the publication’s eyebrow-raising Facebook without too much power or internet. Why not have a pitch-black sexual encounter? If the stuff in the fridge is going bad and you don’t want it to go to waste, try kinking up some sexual stuff to involve food; toss out vanilla sex! Get out that whipped cream and those leftover strawberries! It will all go rancid anyway.
Find Free Things
Go out to get free stuff and find a new friend with a benefits situation, as there are all kinds of places like churches offering free meals that are getting tons of people showing up there, many of them just as lonely as you, isolated from friends and family, but more than willing to make a new friend to spend some quality time with after curfew. Show that you have an independent voice by a quick escape plan with a hurricane buddy, or hunker in during the story and have sex to the exploding power transformer serenade. Try swallowing semen; this ritual rebuilds teeth according to one cultural account, and you can always trust the cultural news.
Calm Your Partner
That’s one way to calm an angry partner, and it’s a classic move that only a few would ever be willing to deny; works every time during a rage. Go down and start sucking. Don’t ask how long it’s been since they last washed that general region; get over this gross factor and start sucking.
Surviving The Dangers
If planning ahead of time, think about who you want as a survival partner carefully, as you may want to avoid awkward post-coital banter with the fire department, as they forgot to avoid highly scented candles, knocking them over by accident during orgasm in the dim lighting.
Hurricanes are enough of a scare, so don’t have someone add other near-death experiences. If you’re going to be stuck indoors, having sex on neon red Cheeto dust, then it makes perfect sense to rally support with single storm preppers that like to get kinky in the pounding rain.
Bust out the emergency stash of lubrication, and as the winds pick up, with enough stimulus and rampant lawlessness, your hurricane plans will include a simple trick that makes the howling winds only add to the screaming orgasm that results in a creaking foundation to combat boredom.
Hot Hookup Spot
Typically, people might say that going to the local supermarket might be a place to find someone to hook up with, but as the local media could point out, most stores are not open. Stay up on the donation centers on the local news because if you’re in south Florida, that’s where people are flocking to, many of them lonely with too much time on their hands.
Why complain about standing in line when you could be eyeing who to hook up with there?
This is not the time to sit at home and cry alone. Offer to help anyone; you never know who they might know who is also single and ready to mingle. Just put it out there.
I’m so lonely. I got divorced. I’m single or whatever your story, tell it to others.
More than likely, they have a story, too, or they have a friend with a story. If that friend is nearby, you offer to help that friend, become a hero, and score. Nothing is sexier than someone willing to lend a helping hand in a time of need, doesn’t matter what you do, how much money you have, or anything, so long as you are there helping in the time of need.
It’s like when a person is broken down with a flat tire on the side of the road. If you can help, that person is grateful. That’s the classic way to start a legit long-term hookup.
We Love Heroes
Everyone wants a hero. Everyone wants someone to be there for them. Just offer to help.
It can be as simple as picking up twigs in the yard or as massive as getting a tree off their house. Maybe it’s simply offering water or ice to someone, even if you know they don’t need it. Sometimes, the simple act of offering is enough of an in to get to the bedroom and score.
Double score if you are an emergency responder. Many people have fantasies about being rescued, especially by people in uniform. If you have uniforms to throw on, strut around, chat it up with people, and you’re more than halfway to a hookup just by wearing the right outfit.
That being said, all those National Guards out there, looking hot and sweaty in the Florida sun, go flirt with them, too. Most of them are trying to keep a smile on their face, so give them a reason to grin by throwing out your cheesiest pickup lines to see if it can reel them in.
What’s the worst-case scenario? What if it works for your hurricane hookup?
While it might be weird to see the military personnel handing out freebies like water, food, ice, and tarps to people at the same place where a little more than a month ago, we were cheering on baseball games, it’s even more disturbing to see the place shredded with heaps of aluminum cleared enough for the traffic to pass.
Get over the change in the scenery, knowing that the Tampa Bay Rays baseball stadium has been the spot of many people meeting and hooking up over the years, so why not give a smile and wink to that person in uniform with a pickup line?
Service the Servicers
Show how grateful you are. Offer to service the service people. That’s giving back.
At least, I think so. Others may or may not agree. Does it matter?
Hurricane Fantasy Time
Live out your fantasy, whatever that may be. You survived the hurricane. Now, it’s time to celebrate with a bit of recovery effort style of hurricane sex for ultimate hurricane pleasure.
Ladies and gentlemen, we’ll get straight to the point. Dildos are amazing. They’re the unspoken friends that allow us to have immense pleasure, and all it takes is the push of a button, the tap of a phone app, or the flick of a switch. We all like to play with ourselves every once in a while. And for maximum enjoyment of our self-play time, we will need the right kind of sex toy. Furthermore, the choice of the said toy can have immense benefits for our health and self-esteem.
Now, sex toys come in different shapes and sizes. A typical sex toy can be as simple as a penis ring or as complex as a sex robot. It can look intimidating, but it can also look cute and adorable. The variety of sex toys nowadays is immense, and we can’t recommend buying one enough.
In this particular article, we will focus specifically on dildos and vibrators. Below are some of our top picks for the best artificial penile toys. In addition, we’ve compiled a handy buyer’s guide that will let you know what to look for when it comes to adult products.
4 Main Reasons to Buy a Dildo
Of course, before we move on to the sex toys themselves, we need to focus on the ‘why’. As we stated earlier, some people think that dildos are scary and that getting the wrong type of sex toy might lead to some nasty consequences. However, it’s 2022, and the taboos on sex toys are slowly breaking down. So, if our readers need further convincing, here are 4 rock-solid reasons to own a nice, firm sex toy in your home.
Reason #1: It Improves Your Sexual Performance
In terms of sex lives, let’s focus specifically on women and gay and bi men. Sometimes, achieving stronger orgasms requires a bit of help. For example, maybe your partner suffers from ED, or there might be predictability in the bedroom. Alternatively, the ladies might suffer from sexual arousal disorder, and sometimes penetrative sex won’t be enough help in fixing it.
Similar issues can occur with guys who enjoy being penetrated. On the one hand, they might require something more exciting in their lives, and sex toys can help. But on the other hand, erectile dysfunction can prevent them from enjoying some intimate fun.
By acquiring a dildo, a vibrator, or any other sex toy, we can significantly improve our time in the bedroom. Sex toys are versatile enough that we can use them in different ways. For example, one woman can enjoy a dildo or with her partner. In addition, sex toys are the perfect stress relief option for men and women. But most importantly, a toy allows the individual to practice and improve in performing sexually, which can benefit them in future relationships.
Reason #2: It Improves Your Health and Well-being
Thus far, science has been on the fence regarding sex toys. Sure, a toy feels good, but can it positively affect one’s health?
As it happens, there are plenty of ways sex toys can help you feel better. For instance, masturbating regularly can promote better sleep. So, if you have insomnia, get yourself a nice vibrator, pour a bit of lube on it, and fiddle around with it for a few nights. You’re guaranteed to get your beauty sleep.
In addition, using a dildo regularly will make a woman’s pelvic floor stronger than before. A weak pelvic floor can lead to urinary incontinence, which is a condition that’s both frequent and somewhat embarrassing for the ladies to discuss. And yes, a vibrator can help in that particular department.
Furthermore, sex and masturbation can reduce the risk of heart attacks and lower one’s blood pressure. Not every dildo user will be in a relationship or have an active sex life. Therefore, it’s not only a good idea to get some toys, but it might also add several decades to one’s life.
Now, let’s say that you have chronic pain. Your first course of action might be to reach for a pill. However, a natural remedy for pain is an orgasm. And a mind-blowing orgasm using a dildo could do wonders for people who have an intense headache.
Finally, we should stress that masturbation and sex both count as exercise. So, by having some sexy time with your favorite toy, you’re shedding those pounds and losing those excess calories. That is more than enough reason to purchase a dildo of high quality.
Reason #3: It Improves Your Relationship
Sexual health is essential, but toys can serve as proper tools for reigniting intimacy between partners. For example, let’s say that a young heterosexual pair has had some issues reaching the needed sensation in the bedroom. They tried everything from rough clit rubbing to shower sex, and nothing seemed to work. What are they to do? Is that lack of intimacy a potential sign of a breakup, or can they do something about it?
Now let’s imagine that same pair with a couple of sex toys, be they strap-on dildos, anal plugs with a flared base, anal beads, or cock rings. Suddenly, they can experiment with various positions, use different settings and intensities, and even swap toys with other eager couples. The sky’s the limit. And if they share these intimate moments, the couple’s relationship will only grow stronger for it.
Reason #4: It Helps You Explore Your Sexuality
Exploring one’s sexuality is a process that can last for decades, a journey with endless possibilities. So naturally, your body will seek excitement. Soon enough, you might switch from stimulating your vagina to toying around with your anus. And while you can do that with your fingers, using a fine-shaped dildo is a different story altogether.
For closeted homosexual guys, exploring one’s sexuality is even more of a big deal than it is to the ladies. After all, a solid subsection of gay fellas is likely to have been brought up in an environment where they couldn’t experiment, like a rural area where homosexuality is still seen as a taboo. Therefore, to these men, dating after coming out can be scary. A dildo is a neat way to prepare the inexperienced gay lads to accept who they are slowly. Plus, it gives them a bit of exercise before moving on to an actual partner.
Both men and women who are experienced with dildos can also benefit from exploring further. For instance, many women harbor fantasies about oversized members, or simply ones with different sizes than what the ladies are generally used to. Therefore, experimenting with an extra-large toy can help them discover what they like. The same goes for ribbed toys, smile-makers, clit vibrators, and other pleasure items.
Our Top Picks for the Best 10 Dildos
Well, we have our handy list out of the way. Now comes the fun part! Let’s focus on the best ten dildos that money can pay for. All of these sex toy options are available on our website, so anyone eager to shop around for some toys can check them out.
A thermoplastic elastomer is an excellent material for modern dildos. It’s soft enough to feel like real skin, easy to clean, and you don’t need to worry about any wear and tear or rust. Furthermore, it’s completely phthalate-free, so it’s safe to use regularly.
The good people of GETREAL know all of that, which is why their 8-inch realistic dildo with balls looks and feels so amazing. One look at it, and already you can tell you’re getting a high-end set toy product. It feels like human flesh, complete with wrinkles, pores, and veins. A treat for any ladies or gentlemen looking for a handy sex toy.
In addition to its material, the GETREAL 8-inch dildo is also incredibly versatile. For example, you can use its suction option, place it on a flat surface, and sit on it for hours of fun. Furthermore, it’s strap-accessible, so feel free to put it in a harness and strap your partner. And to make the experience even more magical, it comes complete with realistic-looking (and feeling) testicles.
In short, the GETREAL realistic dildo is the perfect option for any user. It’s so good that GETREAL made an additional variant, which leads us to our next choice.
Once again, GETREAL gives us a decent 8-inch sex toy with a pronounced head and veins. And once again, it’s a soft, velvety toy that a user can wear in a strap-on harness. And it’s just as easy to clean as the model described above. Furthermore, the shaft design doesn’t look too different, from the shape to the color.
So, what exactly makes this particular GETREAL product differ from the previous one? Well, it’s a simple enough, subtle enough difference for anyone to notice. Namely, this model doesn’t have the addition of testicles.
The GETREAL realistic dildo we’re looking at here is something a bit more traditional. It’s an excellent standing model with a suction bottom that can be placed anywhere and used anytime. And while it might not look as realistic as the other one, it is nevertheless just as effective. So, if you’re the kind of person who doesn’t need testicles on your sex toy, you’ll enjoy this splendid item from GETREAL.
Manny the Fireman does not vibrate. This is because Manny the Fireman does not contain any phthalates. Furthermore, Manny the Fireman might require a condom to stay fresh longer. Also, considering its girth, Manny the Fireman might need more lube than other dildos — water-based lube, of course.
Naturally, we love Manny the Fireman from Blush Novelties, so we can’t help but repeat its name so often. With its ‘discreet packaging’ and robust and hefty shape, this dildo is the perfect sex toy for anyone looking for a challenge. Of course, it’s made of PVC, so it’s a bit porous, but it contains no harmful ingredients and is entirely safe to use.
What separates this sex toy from the others is the shape and the shade. Manny the Fireman is slightly darker than other dildos within the same range, plus it’s curved ever so slightly for that realistic feel. The added suction bottom and testicles make it the perfect treat for someone willing to play solo. It’s strong, shapely, and gets the job done — that’s a win in our book.
Ignite has given us no shortage of incredible dildos, vibrators, and other sex toys to play with. One line, in particular, has left a few women (and men) with ruffled panties, that being Major Dick. And one product from Major Dick’s Straight line, the Commander in Chief, makes it into our list.
The Commander in Chief does look like the most soldierly of artificial penises. It’s as hard as the real thing but as straight and erect as a stick. Unlike Manny the Fireman, it has no curvature, but that’s by design, and the ladies love it.
And speaking of sticks, the suction section of the Commander in Chief will stick to anything. This sex toy will find its place anywhere as long as the surface is flat, whether it is a wall, tiled floors, wood, plastic, or metal. Enjoy hours of fun without even thinking of using your hands.
And if the vanilla option isn’t working for you, you can always opt for the slightly darker caramel. The feel is the same, as is the length, girth, and durability. They only differ in color, so it’s up to you which one will end up in your bedroom, ready for frequent use.
No, that is not a misspelling. The brand name is indeed Gläs, and the dildo we’re about to describe is one of its best models that we highly recommend to anyone.
The Joystick is made out of borosilicate glass. This feature is key for several important reasons:
The material is highly resistant to heat and cold
It’s highly durable and will only break if we drop it onto the hard floor
The body of the sex toy is easy to clean and maintain
The item will stimulate the vagina or anus of anyone who’s not into soft, velvety realistic options.
Indeed, the Joystick doesn’t look realistic. But there is a purpose for its signature ribbed look. Namely, we can achieve immense pleasure when we insert it into ourselves, especially near the big, bulbous end tailor-made to stimulate the G-spot.
As we stated, glass dildos like the Joystick lend themselves well to heat and cold play. We need to either keep the sex toy in the fridge for 20 minutes or soak it in warm water for about the same amount of time. Soon enough, we will be on the steady course of feeling novel sensations that words cannot describe.
Realistic and velvety seems to be what the market wants. And we think that Shaft from Model A delivers on that front and many others.
Once we get past the hefty cost of Shaft, we can see that it offers your standard-issue dildo fare. Its figure and shape are realistic and resemble a proper penis that’s always up. Furthermore, the head is appropriately curved, and the veins give it an extra note of realism. And of course, we can’t forget the testicles and the suction bottom, suitable for solo play and partner fun.
Perhaps the most significant benefit of owning the Shaft is the material. Each dildo is made out of high-grade Flexiskin liquid silicone. The material is far from porous, and we’ll be able to clean the dildo within minutes after use. But, more importantly, Flexiskin is so soft and pillowy that it can almost be mistaken for natural skin. So, don’t miss the opportunity to give this substitute penis a good try.
Yes, Yum Yum is the appropriate name for this splendid product from Colours, a brand of NS Novelties. One look at this fantastic tool, and we can see why so many people, the ladies, in particular, want to use one to pleasure their bodies.
Yum Yum comes in a fashionable mix of pink and white. Its patterned exterior feels like satin, while the body is made of superior-grade silicone. In other words, the Yum Yum is hard enough to take on any person who uses it but soft enough for people to enjoy it during foreplay before penetration.
The Yum Yum is 7 inches long and veiny, based on real-life models of penises. It can also be used as a part of a strap-on if you want to have some fun with a partner. The suction bottom enables us to place the Yum Yum on any flat surface and enjoy some hands-free fun.
King Cock Plus is one name that you’ll often hear since they make outstanding products. More than one of King Cock dildos will make their way onto our list, with plenty of others being available on our website for any curious future users.
Let’s start off with their 3D, i.e., Triple Density brown 6-incher. This spectacular product has a sturdy interior and a velvety, gentle, skin-like exterior. The feel is beyond real, and the user will not be able to tell the difference between the 3D toy and the real thing. And if your partner is interested in giving it a try, you can place it in a strap-on harness and go to town. Hands-free fun is also on the table. The suction bottom of the dildo is incredibly durable and adaptable to any flat surface.
The material of the Triple Density cock is pollutant-free and will not harm the human body, similar to silicone. Furthermore, it’s easy to wash and maintain and easy to store. In short, it’s the kind of toy you don’t want to miss out on.
Colours is back once again, but we have its famed Girth line this time. The line draws its fame from high-quality, superior silicone dildos that are thick, durable, and perfect for penetration. Naturally, the toys come with excellent suction bottoms that help them stay firm and upfront on any flat surface.
One look at the Purple variant of the Colours Girth line will say plenty. It’s an excellent silicone sex toy with just enough veins and creases to satisfy anyone. The color choice is one of its best features since it allows the users to change things up from skin-colored items.
Rounding up the list, King Cock is making a comeback with its Slim 12-inch double dildo. A true US original, the Slim sex toy is made out of pollutant-free rubber and is exceptionally firm. That firmness makes it both durable and extremely powerful as a toy, capable of providing satisfaction to two partners at once.
The jet black color of the King Cock Slim double dildo was not chosen by accident. Plenty of users prefer this color, as it is alluring and draws the user right in. Furthermore, its length works to its advantage. If users feel the need to insert a little extra into themselves, they have 12 whole inches of pure pleasure to enjoy.
Dildo and Vibrator Buyer’s Guide
With our list of sex toys nice and ready, we should stress that buying a pleasure tool is not something a customer should take lightly. To pick the best toy that fits our needs, we need to go over several vital details. To help out some potential buyers, we’ve prepared this handy buyer’s guide for getting the best toy on the market today.
In terms of size, we need to look at both the length and circumference.
On average, an American man’s penis is 6 inches long. With that in mind, anything between roughly 5 and 7 inches in length can be counted as an average phallic sex toy. Anything beyond seven counts as big, while anything drastically bigger (e.g., 14 inches) falls under the category of ‘brutal’.
The toy’s girth we want will depend on how much we can handle. The best way to decide is to use a ruler and measure the toy’s diameter that catches our eye. That diameter will give us an idea of how thick the toy would be while penetrating the vagina. For reference, an average sex toy of this type is roughly 1.5 inches in diameter, so we can use that as a yardstick.
There are different types of dildos based on their shape, purpose, and function. A typical retail website will usually list off multiple categories, some of whom overlap.
The basic division is between vibrators and regular toys. A vibrator typically has different settings, and we switch between them to adjust the intensity. Some modern vibrators also have remotes, so you or your partner can control them from a distance. The level of control will depend on whether the toy has app connectivity, making it perfect for online adult performers. They are also USB rechargeable, and some even come with software updates.
Shape-wise, dildos and vibrators can be realistic-looking, smooth, bumpy/ribbed, or have atypical shapes. The atypical ones can either look like animal reproductive organs, fantasy elements such as tentacles, or have unique designs.
Dildos also vary depending on where they enter or how we use them. Some are purely for anal stimulation, while others, like double dildos, can simultaneously satisfy two people. There are even sex toys that help with G-spot and prostate stimulation, as well as packing dildos that simulate having a flaccid penis. That last subsection isn’t useful for penetrative sex, but they are nevertheless quite handy and popular.
In terms of material, we will provide a brief rundown of dildos you should buy and the ones you ought to avoid.
These are the materials you will want to check out since they are easy to clean and maintain, plus they will almost never contain any phthalates or other pollutants:
Silicone (as well as silicone variants)
The following materials are the lowest quality for dildos. Some of them might work, but it’s best to avoid them if you intend to shop for a decent sex toy:
Some dildos might cost a solid amount of money, depending on the material they’re made from and the general features they might have. Anywhere around $50 is a reasonable price for a sex toy. However, we recommend that the buyer pay less money than that if they are a first-time user. Starting off with a less costly toy will give the user some perspective on what they like and how it satisfies them. Once they have that information, they can purchase something pricier that helps them achieve sexual satisfaction.
The general rule for buying sex toys is fairly simple. First, compare and contrast the popular brands that people shop for today. Then mark the cheapest and the most expensive products, and you’ll have a neat little range. Anything under that range is probably of poor quality, while anything higher might be a rip-off.
Jack and Jill Dildos and Vibrators: The Bottom Line
Dildos play a key role in keeping one’s sexual health and self-esteem in order. It might not seem like it to an untrained eye, but those silicone replicas are our companions, ready to give us our dose of orgasms any time we desire them. So, don’t worry about all the taboos related to dildos. If you’re interested, shop for one today and treat your vagina or your anus to some of the best self-pleasuring sessions ever!
When buying sex toys, most women go for either vibrators or dildos. Don’t get us wrong: a good dildo is worth its weight in gold. But times have changed, and sex tech has dramatically evolved since the iconic Hitachi Magic Wand first came out fifty years ago. There are now clit-sucking vibrators that use modern technology to unlock multiple orgasms and the complete satisfaction you’ve been dreaming of.
Clit suction is one of the most efficient ways to intensify clitoral orgasms. Given that most women need such stimulation to climax, adult toys that mimic oral sex are welcome and long overdue. So, let’s talk about oral suction and sonic wave vibrators because the sex toys are leveling up, and we are more than ready to jump on board.
What Is a Clit Suction Toy?
Clit-sucking vibrators deliver intense orgasms on the fly by combining suction, air, and vibration patterns. They have little nozzles that hover over your entire clitoris and use air pressure to create a suction force. Some of the more recent models emit intense sound waves that indirectly stimulate your pleasure nub. Advanced clit suckers can even vibrate at the same time.
Generally speaking, suction toys are supposed to mimic the feeling of oral sex. These pleasure products send pulses deep within your body, creating a more full-body orgasm. Some users even report that the feeling is so intense that it makes them climax in less than sixty seconds.
The toys have an ergonomic design and usually look like an 8. But you can also find models that resemble dapper penguins, flowers, and barnyard animals.
Still, no matter the shape, they all have a nozzle covering the glans clitoris (the part of the clitoris that sticks outside the labia). Furthermore, sonic clitoral stimulators often have a number of exhilarating pleasure settings, allowing you to experiment with different sensations.
Companies like Lelo and Womanizer are currently the leaders on the market, making some of the best clit-sucking vibrators out there. So, you can find models with a bigger mouth, waterproof design, removable head, cruise control, and other special functions.
What’s the Difference Between a Regular Vibrator and a Clit-Sucking Vibrator
Traditional vibrators stimulate only the external nerve endings or the tip of your clitoris. While that is amazing, there’s more to this erogenous zone than we previously thought. Recent studies have discovered that the little nub we call the clitoris is part of a bigger structure of nerve endings extending deeper into your vulva. The famous G-spot is part of it too!
Unlike other toys, clitoral stimulators have suction pads that create deep, satisfying pulses that reach the whole clitoris. They can do that thanks to the innovative technology and special materials the devices consist of.
But the most significant difference between a regular vibrator and a clit-sucking kind is how they make you feel. Some users say that conventional vibrators feel like sitting on a washing machine, while sonic waves resemble standing in front of loud booming speakers. The users generally describe such stimulation as unique, unlike anything they’ve ever experienced.
But Can It Give You an Instant Orgasm?
Word on the street is that clit suckers and sonic waves can give you instant orgasms, and yes, that’s true. Since they engage the entire clitoris, including the G-spot, the sensation can be so powerful that you reach bliss in a matter of minutes.
That being said, just because the sex toy can make you come instantly, it doesn’t mean it will or that it’ll happen every time you use it. So don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t happen the first time you use your clit cuddler. As with any sex toy, it’ll probably take some time.
Most devices include options for adjusting the pressure of the sonic waves. Just take time and experiment with them until you find the one that puts you in fervor.
In addition, some vibrators have both sucking and vibrating features. That means you can begin with the typical vibration modes you are used to and then progress to the intense sonic waves when you’re ready to climax. You can also start with suction and alternate between vibration patterns when the feeling becomes too much to handle. Play with the suction settings and find the combination that works best!
How to Use Oral Suction Vibrators
Warm-up is essential when it comes to any sexual play. So, it would be best to start with manual stimulation first. Apply water-based lubricant and stroke gently and consistently with your fingers, as you usually do while masturbating. When you feel ready, put a bit of lube on the toy and place it over your pleasure clit.
Although it is intended for the clit, you can also use this sex toy on other erogenous zones — for example, your nipples. If the suction is too strong for you, a thicker layer of lubricant can help by creating a barrier between your skin and the toy. But suppose you want to replicate the feeling of oral sex. In that case, you should use lubrication even if you’re not especially sensitive to stimulation.
Clit cuddlers can also be a great addition to partnered sex. Engaging the clit during intercourse increases arousal because it engorges the area around the vaginal canal, making you (or your partner) feel amazing.
The only challenge is to find a way to hold the clit cuddler above the right spot during penetrative sex. But that should not be too different from using any other handheld clitoris stimulator — you need some practice. The best beginner poses are doggy style and missionary. At first, the vulva-owning partner should hold the vibrators to ensure it’s in the right position.
The missionary pose allows you to enjoy the vibrator hands-free since your body weight holds the device in place. On the other hand, in the doggy style, one of the partners can reach between the legs and secure the toy there. The combination of penetration and clit sucking can be mind-blowing.
Do Clit Cuddlers Mean the End of the Oral Sex?
But buying an oral suction toy doesn’t mean the cunnilingus is entirely off the table. You can have your partner work together with it to give you the most intense orgasm ever. All you need to do is hold the toy over your clitoris and let your partner lick the rest of your vulva. They can also use a finger or two to stimulate your G-spot.
A word of caution: if you have piercings on your genitals, you should take them off before using a suction toy. Otherwise, the toy might tug on them, causing pain and discomfort.
How to Know if Oral Suction and Sonic Waves Vibrators Are for You (Before Making a Purchase)
Everyone’s body and sexual preferences are unique. That means someone can have a blast with clit cuddlers and sonic waves, but you might find them uncomfortable. So, if you are still unsure whether you will enjoy this next-generation technology, spend some time loving yourself to find out. Masturbation is the most secure — not to mention the most comfortable — approach to discovering your body’s desires.
So, start slow and take your time. While you touch yourself, trying different speeds, rhythms, and techniques would be best. You will learn what kind of clitoral stimulation gets you going. If you have a partner, you can also ask them to try various oral sex techniques on you.
If you have a chance, visit a local sex toy store. You can get your hands on different models and brands of clit suction vibrators. Check out how heavy, cumbersome, loud, and intense they are. Finding a perfect vibrator takes time and effort. Still, you’ll definitely be happy with the deeper satisfaction you’ll get in return.
How to Choose the Best Clit-Sucking Vibrator
Different brands use different terminology (for example, pleasure air or air pulse). Still, it’s all about the same thing — suction and sonic waves that bring enhanced pleasure to your special spot. But is there any difference between clit suction vibrators you can find on the market?
As with any other sex toy, not every company can offer you the same quality. So, when buying your first oral suction toy, there are some traits to consider, like the material, weight, intensity levels, and additional features.
Regarding sex toys, the right materials matter because they come in direct contact with the sensitive tissue around and inside your genitals. Poor quality materials, like PVC, are more porous, so you can never fully clean them. For this reason, they promote bacteria buildup and irritate. They also contain toxic chemicals called phthalates that can penetrate your tissue and harm your health.
Clit suckers made of silicone are a better option, but not all silicone is created equal. So, you’ll want to opt for a toy made of body-safe silicone that is nonporous. Medical-grade silicone is also an excellent choice since, besides being nonporous, it fits the requirements for use in medical equipment. Aside from being better for your health, medical-grade and body-safe silicone feel more luxurious against your skin.
The rule of thumb is the heavier the toy, the stronger the vibrations.
However, that doesn’t mean you should buy the heaviest vibrator you can find. Sex toys have to be balanced as well. That means the pleasure air and vibrations should go where you need them (such as the contact area) and not elsewhere (like the handle, making it hard to hold for a prolonged period).
Furthermore, having some special requirements will also affect the type of vibrator you choose. For instance, a lighter model might be a better fit if you need a toy you can carry around.
Toys with a number of pleasure settings allow you to explore deeper satisfaction and deliver quick results. In addition, suction-style toys can be powerful. So, having a toy with five intensity settings, for example, can help you slowly adjust to this type of clitoral stimulation. Start with the lowest setting and work your way up.
Times have changed, and sex toys nowadays don’t necessarily have to look like sex toys. Instead, get a cute and stylish clit sucker that you can easily keep on your coffee table and pass off as a decoration.
The best clitoral stimulator comes with a couple of additional quirks. For instance, if you like taking your toys to the shower or bath, you can get a waterproof oral stimulator. Or, if you don’t want to be stuck next to a power plug the entire time, get a USB rechargeable model.
Of course, your new vibrator doesn’t have to have all of these qualities to be worth the investment. Just focus on whatever functions are most important to you.
How Much Does a Clit Cuddler Cost?
The best clit suction toy with body-safe materials generally costs between $60 and $200. Any cheaper, and you might have a problem because such toys are usually made of low-quality, if not unsafe, materials.
How Noisy Should a Clit Sucker Be?
Sex toys that are too noisy spoil the mood and can even be intimidating. That’s why your toy should be as silent as a whisper. Anything less than 50dB at a maximum suction level will let you use it without disturbing your neighbors or roommates.
How to Care for Oral Suction and Sonic Wave Vibrators
As you do with your other bedroom gadgets, you should wash your clit cuddler before and after each use. For that, you can use a sex toy cleaner. But lukewarm water and soap will also do the trick. Only use fragrance-free soap because the scented ones increase the risk of yeast infections.
Next, rinse well, especially if your favorite toy is shaped like a rose, since bacteria can accumulate between the petals. Use a lint-free cloth to dry your toy. Recharge, unplug, and store it in a cool, dry place. Ideally, keeping the toy in the original packaging would be best. Still, breathable satin or silk sacks are good alternatives.
Follow these steps every time you use your clit cuddler. That way, it will be ready whenever you wish to take it out again and play.
What Types of Lube Are Safe?
Using a lubricant with sex toys is an excellent way to reduce friction and avoid irritating your skin. But not every lube is compatible with clit suction toys.
So, if you decide to include lube into your play session with a clit cuddler, we advise opting for a water-based lubricant. That is because most clitoral stimulators consist of silicone. So, using silicone-based lubricants risks damaging the material and shortening your toy’s life span.
The Best Clit Suction Vibrators on the Market
Pleasure is highly subjective, and what feels too much for one person might be too mild for someone else. For this reason, we compiled a list of the best clit suckers, including gentle toys for beginners and powerful vibrators that can make your legs tremble. That way, you can easily find the one that fits your needs.
INYA The Rose Rechargeable Suction Vibe — Rose
You might recognize this rose-shaped vibrator from TikTok. The Rose went viral on this platform thanks to its elegant appearance and powerful performance. In a video that generated 3.9 million views, one user claims that it made her orgasm in only thirty seconds. You can find similar videos on TikTok using the hashtags #TheRoseReview and #TheRoseToy.
As you probably already guessed, The Rose resembles a stemless rose. It features a hole in the middle of the petals that embraces your clit and sucks on it. This sex toy is small and consists of body-safe silicone and ABS plastic.
The Rose uses pressure wave technology to make fluttering waves at seven different speeds — ideal for those chasing the G-spot and prolonged climax. This waterproof oral stimulator lets you take it to your hot tub or a shower for the best pleasure time. The rechargeable model gives you 45 minutes of fun per charge.
Womanizer Liberty — Pink
Womanizer’s Liberty is so good that the famous pop singer, Lily Allen, took part in designing it (her special edition). The Liberty is a smaller version of the Womanizer Premium but much more affordable. Thanks to its sleek travel cover and size, this clitoral stimulator is the perfect toy to take with you on adventures and trips.
The Liberty utilizes pleasure air and light suction for more profound satisfaction and an even gentler murmur. It has six intensity levels and is an excellent beginner air-suction toy. Switch between the intensity settings using two buttons.
Womanizer also made sure this clit sucker had a waterproof design. Another great thing about it is that it is fairly quiet compared to its counterparts. So, it might be an excellent choice if you like getting off in the shower and you need to keep it quiet because of roommates.
Besides giving you multiple orgasms, this Womanizer toy also looks classy. ABS plastic and body-safe silicone ensure your play sessions are as safe as they are pleasurable. Recharge it using a micro USB cable.
Inmi Bloomgasm Passion Petals 10X Silicone Suction Rose Vibrator — Red
The Bloomgasm’s Passion Petals is another great rose clit suction vibrator. It offers ten different settings — three speeds and seven vibration modes- stimulating the entire clitoral area. The toy consists of premium, phthalate-free, body-safe silicone and ABS plastic. On top of that, you can use it in the shower since this is a waterproof oral stimulator.
But good things don’t end there: the Passion Petals also alternates as a penetrating sex toy! The other half of this toy is a curved shaft with gentle ridges that massage the sensitive nerve endings around the G-spot. So, you can use it as a clit stimulator, penetrating toy, or combine the two ways of stimulation for deeper satisfaction.
LELO Sona 2 Cruise — Cerise
Lelo Sona 2 Cruise is an improved version of the Lelo Sona Cruise. Sona 2 retains all the best characteristics, like the automatic Sona Cruise Control technology, which makes sure the intensity doesn’t drop when you press the toy against your body. But Lelo Sona 2 also has twelve settings to choose from, so you will feel it in your G-spot.
Sona 2 sonic massager is made of 100% medical-grade silicone, durable and safe. The extra-soft silicone exterior also feels fantastic against your sensitive flesh. After recharging, Lelo Sona 2 gives you two hours of undiluted pleasure. While a bit on the pricey side, it’s worth every penny.
LELO Sila Sonic Massager — Pink
Sila is Lelo’s latest sonic massager. Similar to the previous clit cuddlers from the same company, like Lelo Sona 2, it is meant to spread a gentle clitoral stimulation equally throughout the entire clitoris. The sensation is described as a slower and more sensual buildup to climax. But this version comes with an upgrade: its broader nozzle can encompass more skin (bigger surface), making it suitable for a wider range of anatomy.
Sila features eight vibration settings that allow you to explore sonic waves and make a sensation perfect and liberating. In addition, this waterproof oral stimulator is USB rechargeable, which makes it super practical.
When Should You Stop Using Oral Suction Toys?
Clit suckers cause orgasms by indirect stimulation. Because they are not making direct contact with your skin, you can use them for as long as you like, going for as many rounds as you wish.
That said, some users have reported that clit suckers caused blood blisters. Although these claims are rare and unverified, you should still be careful. Listen to your body and stop experimenting with sonic wave intensities if you feel discomfort or pain.
Using sex toys can have many benefits for your physical and mental health. But unlike any other toy, clit cuddlers take those benefits to a new level by promising quicker, better, and stronger orgasms. Moreover, they feel more comfortable because they do not come in direct contact with your clitoris, only hover above it. That allows you to continue even after you climax, making those multiple orgasm dreams come true.
Now that you’ve learned everything there is to know about clit-sucking vibrators; you are probably itching to take yours out and feel complete satisfaction. Be careful, listen to your body, and ride those waves of pleasure!
Aside from being straight-up amazing, sex toys also have numerous health benefits. When you use a sex toy, you might get more than you bargained for. Sexual pleasure is pretty much a guarantee. But did you know that using sex toys can also regulate your blood pressure, relieve stress, and improve the state of your pelvic floor?
Many women don’t understand just how many health benefits even a sex toy can have. If your friend, who happens to be a former nurse, tells you how genital vibration can help you with physical and mental health issues, listen to her. She knows her stuff.
Since many people don’t know what sex toys can do for them, we’re diving into all the perks of vibrator use!
Sex Toys Beyond the Sexual Satisfaction: Women’s Health
Using sex toys to regulate physical or mental health isn’t exactly a novel idea. Vibrators predate electricity, and they were used to “treat” made-up states in women across the globe. Today, such misogynistic notions are well outdated. Still, the fact remains that vibrators (among other sex toys) can help you improve both physical and mental health.
So, you’re not the only one if you found yourself praising your clit cuddler like the We-Vibe Melt for getting you through the pandemic. Many people found solace in using sex toys (both pre and during the pandemic).
There are even medical data to back you up. A recent study found that women’s health can greatly benefit from sex toys. Vibrators can help you improve your urinary and reproductive systems as well as your vascular and mental health. The same study states that both men and women can reap these benefits.
So let’s see what precisely one vibrator can do for your body and mind, shall we?
The Benefits Of Vibrators Study [Infographic]
Increase Your Odds of Survival (With a Vibrator)
Although we’ve spent the previous few paragraphs praising sex toys for their magnificent capabilities, we have to say that simply using sex toys won’t ensure you’re completely healthy.
But it can improve your odds of living a longer life. How?
Well, vibrator use (or any sex toys, really) can improve your cardiovascular health. Frequent masturbation can keep your heart healthy. But, of course, it’s not a substitute for healthy living and regular exercise, nor will it prevent heart disease. Still, now and then, a bit of solo activity can help you keep those cholesterol levels down.
Studies Link Sex Toys With Better Heart Health
A nationally representative study at the Michigan State University found that women who experience more sexual pleasure and sexual satisfaction have lower chances of getting hypertension. Hypertension is high blood pressure that can often lead to heart attacks and even stroke.
But why is that? When women orgasm, their heart rate goes up right before and during the orgasm. Then, it steadily goes down sometime after the orgasm is finished. This might sound familiar to you, as it’s the purpose of high-intensity workouts (to get your blood pressure up and then down and increase your blood flow).
So, orgasming is kind of like exercising. One orgasm is the equivalent of a treadmill walk of about 1.7 miles per hour at an admirable 10% incline. Women who frequently achieve orgasms have a better chance of maintaining their heart health.
Increased blood flow has another fringe benefit because it keeps your immune system in good shape.
And Improve Your Sexual Health
Sex toys can do so much more than regulate our blood pressure. Both men and women can (and do) benefit from exercises such as Kegels. However, using a vibrator can also strengthen the pelvic floor muscles.
As we age, our pelvic floors get weaker (as does the rest of our body). However, we mustn’t let them deteriorate completely. The pelvic floor is integral for not only sexual health but also the proper function of our urinary tracts as well.
Regular sexual activity and penetrative sex can aid in keeping our pelvic floor nice and tight. But if you’re sans partner, don’t worry; a sex toy will do a great job.
Doing Kegels, or clenching and unclenching your pelvic floor muscles while a vibrator is inside you, is an excellent way to keep your muscles strong and in optimal shape.
When it comes to strengthening the pelvic floor, the type of vibrator doesn’t matter much. You can opt for anything from the small Mini Swan Wand to the much bigger Fun Factory Sundaze.
Better Bladder Control
One of the advantages of having a strong pelvic floor is better bladder control. We know that it might be challenging to link penetrative sex (with a person or a sex toy) and bladder control, but hear us out. As we said, vibrators can do more for women’s health than just enhance sexual pleasure.
According to a national survey and a systematic review done at the University of New Mexico, women who engage in frequent sexual activity (including sexual stimulation and penetration) have stronger pelvic floor muscles.
Furthermore, they also have fewer issues with the urinary tract. For example, urinary incontinence, the most common pelvic floor dysfunction, isn’t an issue for these women because a stronger pelvic floor allows them better bladder control.
A Healthier Vagina
When buying vibrators, many of us only think of them in terms of sexual pleasure and sexual stimulation. We rarely think that using a vibrator can help us with anything other than reaching an orgasm (or, if we’re lucky, multiple orgasms).
But sex toys improve our sexual health. Studies have shown that women who use a vibrator have healthier vaginas. With time, our vaginas lose their natural elasticity. They also become more short and narrow. One way to ensure our vaginas maintain their elasticity is to have frequent sex (or masturbate regularly).
When we get aroused, the lining of our vaginas and our vaginal walls produce secretion. This keeps everything well moisturized. And we all know that moisturization is vital when it comes to keeping ourselves young and plump. Moisture helps with elasticity which means that masturbation that involves vaginal penetration keeps our vaginas young!
Not only do vibrators offer plenty of health benefits, but women who regularly masturbate are more likely to do self-exams of their genital area. Furthermore, they are more likely to schedule regular appointments with their gynecologist and take care of their sexual health.
Women who have vaginismus know just how difficult that condition is. It’s hard to believe that sex toys improve our muscle tonus so that we can deal with this horrible condition, but it’s true.
A sex toy company rarely promotes only sexual pleasure. Instead, most of them also focus on sexual health and preach sex-positivity. That’s why you’ll find many companies in the sex toy industry that put a lot of effort into sexual health promotion and offer toys (or better said, different devices) that can help with various conditions (vaginismus included).
For example, the She-ology Dilator Set is an excellent pick for women who experience a lot of pain during penetration.
Menopause and Sex Toys
Kind of like erectile dysfunction in men, menopause happens to every woman sooner or later. But menopausal symptoms can wreak havoc on a woman’s body. Aside from hot flashes, migraines, mood swings, troubles sleeping, and a slowed metabolism, women in menopause also experience vaginal dryness and a low sex drive.
Having sex during menopause can be a scary prospect. Many women find sex during menopause not as pleasurable as it was or even painful. Considering what ordeal menopause is, it’s difficult to comprehend that one sex toy can be a game-changer there.
But it can. A vibrator (or any similar sex toy), paired with a lot of lube and some goodwill, can change how a woman treats her body during menopause. Vibrators can even become medical devices during this time.
As our estrogen levels drop during menopause, our vaginas lose elasticity and moisture, making them more fragile. Furthermore, our vaginal linings become more thin and dry, and our vaginal openings shorten.
Vaginal Dryness and Erectile Dysfunction
One in three women experiences severe vaginal dryness that leads to painful sex during menopause.
Sex toys can help significantly here. They will help with arousal, but they will also help women relax enough for sexual intimacy. Vibrator use can dramatically improve menopausal sex and even reignite a sexual relationship.
They can also help with the low sex drive. Because a sex toy can help with arousal, vibrator use can increase sexual desire.
What’s more, because middle-age doesn’t just affect women but also influences erectile function in men, vibrators can lend a helping hand on more than one front. That is a massive benefit for both men and women struggling to maintain their sexual spark in middle age.
A vibrator is an excellent substitute for an erect penis in bed. The notion that you should only use it for solo play is outdated and wrong. So, vibrators can improve your sex life and sexual intercourse in many ways.
Vibrators Can Boost Your Sex Life
Couples who experience dry spells after decades together often turn to relationship therapy (or marital therapy). Sexual and relationship therapy is no longer the taboo it once was, which is a fantastic improvement that we should all take advantage of.
Although there’s no one perfect “sexual medicine” for couples who struggle with sex, vibrator use is one of the better solutions. No matter the issue a couple is struggling with, a sex toy can offer a lending hand.
On the other hand, for couples who are struggling with menopausal symptoms or need help with delayed ejaculation, as explained before, sex toys can help on both fronts. That’s why sex toys play a prominent role in plenty of sex and relationship therapy sessions.
Vibrators and Physical Health
If we take a step back away from the notion of sexual medicine, we’ll see that a sex toy can also help with some other issues. First, of course, various sexual activities can help us maintain our health (especially sexual health). Still, to not rely on a partner (and their sexual prowess), we can opt for a bit of solo activity and use sex toys to relieve some issues.
You’ve probably noticed that when you reach orgasm, you get sleepy. You might have also noticed that you sleep better after spending a portion of the night rolling in the sheets. But why is that?
When we climax, our bodies go through a whole ordeal. As mentioned before, our heart rate shoots up during an orgasm and then gradually goes down. What’s more, our blood pressure stabilizes. These are excellent conditions for falling asleep.
While that’s true, many other things also happen after an orgasm. For example, when we climax, our brains release various chemicals. One of those is prolactin.
Prolactin is a hormone that some women are familiar with because it plays a vital role in breastfeeding and lactation. But it also affects our sleep. It’s a growth-sleep hormone that promotes rapid eye movement. As some of you know, rapid eye movement or the REM stage of sleep is the stage when we dream. It’s also the stage that precedes the deep sleep stage (which is when our bodies and minds rest the most during the night and regenerate).
So, having an orgasm right before bed is an excellent way to improve your sleep schedule. Vibrator use before bed can ensure that you fall asleep quickly and effortlessly and rest more (because you’ll fall into the deep sleep stage quicker and stay in it longer).
Less Stress and Anxiety
Prolactin isn’t the only hormone our brains release during and after an orgasm. When we climax, our brains get flooded with different chemicals, which are mood boosters.
If you’ve never heard of the feel-good hormones, you’re missing out on some fun knowledge.
Oxytocin and serotonin (also known as the bliss chemicals) are the two primary hormones released during an orgasm. Oxytocin, or the love hormone, is the hormone responsible for muscle contractions (and ejaculation). The more oxytocin our brains release, the stronger our orgasms.
But oxytocin also does so much more than ensuring we come like we never did before. When our brains release this hormone, we feel elated, bonded with our partner, generally happy, and less stressed. Oxytocin also promotes wound healing and better immune response.
So, it’s logical that frequent orgasms can generally help us reduce stress (among other things).
Orgasms also affect anxiety. Sex and masturbation can be excellent tools of distraction. They help us relax, release the feel-good hormones in our bodies, and generally boost our moods.
Orgasms also help us release tension and regulate our breathing. Those who have mild or severe anxiety know just how important breathing patterns are when stress hits.
Orgasms affect our nervous systems. So, they can be an excellent remedy for neurological conditions such as anxiety and depression. But, of course, sexual medicine won’t completely solve your issues. It especially won’t be as effective as therapy and medication. Still, having an orgasm or two every day can help you feel better.
We can’t talk about the feel-good hormones without mentioning all the wonderful things they do for our bodies. For example, oxytocin and dopamine can help you reduce pain.
Now, we’re not talking about severe pain here. For example, the pain that follows surgical interventions after a spinal cord injury or serious conditions such as multiple sclerosis requires serious medication. But when it comes to regular, everyday pain, such as the one that accompanies periods or migraines, orgasms can help us there.
According to a study done at Harvard University, the feel-good hormones are stored in the pituitary gland and are released during pleasurable acts. Now, orgasms aren’t the only thing that will trigger their release. You can also reduce pain by releasing these hormones during exercise or other pleasurable activities.
However, masturbating is easier (and more pleasurable) than exercising. That’s why many people opt to use sexual sensations to trigger the release of the feel-good hormones.
Women who frequently used a vibrator reported significant improvements concerning period pains and pains in general. The genital vibration, paired with an orgasm, quickly and efficiently lessens cramps and the pain that goes along with them.
Exploring Your Body and Sexuality
So, it’s clear that vibrators and sex toys, in general, can help us maintain physical health. However, owning and using a sex toy can do wonders for our mental health. Aside from affecting stress, anxiety, and depression, using a sex toy can also improve our mental health by boosting our confidence and helping us get intuned with our bodies.
Sex toy companies promote health, better sexual function, and pleasure. But because sex toys can help us get familiar with our bodies and explore, they also encourage other health topics like body positivity and confidence.
Today, sex toy companies are more focused on ensuring their clients get the most out of their products. However, one of the fringe benefits of vibrators (and of the most important points in various health topics) is that they allow us to gain more body confidence.
By using sex toys, we explore our bodies, get familiar with our likes and dislikes, and learn how to pleasure ourselves. That means we don’t have to rely on other people to satisfy us. It also means we gain more confidence in bed and life. When you know what you want, it’s easy to ask for it. What’s more, it’s also easy to expect it.
Of course, the most essential function of a vibrator is the sexual function. It’s a tool that, depending on the type, has different settings and capabilities that will allow us to experience a sexual sensation we might not have experienced before.
As with anything in life, we might like that sexual sensation, or we might not. But the vital thing is that we can explore it. Vibrators allow us to explore our bodies and do something to ourselves without relying on others and their sexual prowess.
In other words, with a vibrator, we can reach orgasm with no help, in many ways, and learn to please ourselves.
Closing the Orgasm Gap
For some reason, people are still unwilling to talk about the orgasm gap. But, on average, in heterosexual relationships, women orgasm fewer times than men. Considering that we’re capable of multiple orgasms, that seems odd.
91% of men report climaxing during intercourse, while only 64% of women can say the same. That means there’s a massive discrepancy between men and women in heterosexual relationships.
But how can vibrators help?
Well, women orgasm more frequently during masturbation. The satisfaction rate is much higher when a silicone, ABS plastic, or TPE penis is involved. Does that mean that men are bad at sex?
No, of course not. Women need consistency of stimulation to orgasm. Sometimes the tiniest thing can throw us off rhythm and ruin the entire experience. A vibrator is much more reliable when it comes to consistency.
Of course, that doesn’t mean we should forgo men entirely. It does, however, mean that we can use vibrators and make good use of their intended sexual function even when we aren’t flying solo. Vibrators can help us close the orgasm gap; we need to give them a chance during coupled play.
Heterosexual men report lesser levels of satisfaction during intercourse that involves sex toys. But before you let that discourage you, consider that men use vibrators and other sex toys to pleasure their partners.
So, their lower levels of sexual satisfaction make sense. Bisexually identified men report the same or higher levels of sexual pleasure when using sex toys. That proves that sex toys really can help close the orgasm gap.
A Few Parting Words
Overall, vibrators (and specifically genital vibration) can help you boost your sex life and help maintain physical and mental health. They are excellent devices that can practically transform your sex life. All you have to do is pick one and let it change you!
Luckily, if you suffer from ED, you can get one of many medical devices or sex toys that help with erections. This article will cover essential details specifically related to cock rings and how they can help treat ED. In addition, we will cover a few other methods that might help you have an erect penis at any point during the day.
Of all the medical conditions that men can suffer from, few are as distressing and challenging to handle as erectile dysfunction or ED. Not being capable of getting or maintaining an erection can have severe consequences for the man’s self-esteem, as well as both physical and mental health. While said issues are common and usually don’t last too long, they can get severe enough to warrant professional medical advice. Even better news, many sex toys on the market today can assist with ED issues
Erectile Dysfunction Explained
But before we move on to the cock rings themselves, we need to talk about ED in depth. And to talk about treating ED, we must understand how erections work.
So, how do men get an erection? It all has to do with muscles, blood vessels, and our reaction to external stimuli.
When a man is aroused, our nerves release certain chemicals that increase the amount of blood that flows into the penis. Each penis consists of two erection chambers called the corpus cavernosum. These chambers are spongy tissue that relaxes and traps the blood inside, making the organ firm.
When we reach the climax, the muscular tissue contracts, and the blood trapped within flows back into the circulation. Our penis slowly goes flaccid, refilling itself with new blood.
A flaccid penis will shrink in cold weather and fall asleep more often than not. The shifting size directly results from the balance of blood that enters and exits the corpus cavernosum. And yes, it can retract even if the man feels worried, embarrassed, sad, or depressed. In other words, it’s completely normal.
ED is more common than one might think. Roughly a third of all men globally suffer from ED, be it minor or significant.
So, how do we diagnose this issue? Well, ED occurs due to one of the following causes:
As you can see, of all the physical and mental health conditions men suffer from, ED seems to have the biggest number of possible origin points. In other words, instead of an ED ring, you might just need to apply a few lifestyle changes. We will cover that a little later in the article. Let’s focus on how a cock ring treats erectile dysfunction.
What Is a Cock Ring?
Researching devices that help us maintain an erection and achieve better sex, we might run into several different terms for what is essentially the same tool:
A cock ring is a circular, hollow sexual aid that men place around the base of the penis to keep it hard. There are several types of these rings based on where we put them:
The third type is more or less self-explanatory. We take our ring and strap it around the base of our testicles. As a result, the scrotum will swell up. Not only does it help maintain an erection, but it’s also an excellent way to spice up intimate times. However it’s a good idea to shave off any pubic hair before placing this ring to avoid any discomfort.
Penile rings, on the other hand, only go around the base of the penis, roughly around the area where the blood flows directly into (and out of) the organ. To be more precise, the ring goes near the exact same place where another organ helps keep the blood inside, a band of fiber called Tunica albuginea. So, if we have trouble with either blood flow or the Tunica itself, the ring will be our best bet of keeping the blood in.
Sometimes, people combine cock rings with vacuum erection devices (also known as vacuum pumps) to promote blood flow into the penis. And if done right, this vacuum method can help a man reach powerful orgasms.
Cock Rings Categorized
Constriction rings come in various shapes and sizes. Still, the most common classification refers to what they’re made of or contain. As such, the most common ones include:
There are many stretchy silicone sexual aids out there, and cock rings made out of this material seem to be the most common. They are also the cheapest rings money can buy and the easiest to clean and maintain.
However, they require some getting used to because a tight-fitting ring can permanently injure the user. Even flexible silicone is still firm enough to restrict too much blood flow if it’s a mismatch in size.
Adjustable Cock Rings
An adjustable cock ring is an ED device with different fasteners and adjusters. For example, they can contain velcro, a string, or any other flexible material that enables us to properly lock them in place depending on how hard we want to restrict blood flow to our penis.
Vibrating Cock Rings
A vibrating cock ring, as its name suggests, contains a vibrator tiny enough to stimulate our partner’s clitoris during intercourse. The vibrations might also make the male partner feel good. Still, generally speaking, they are generally viewed as a sex toy for two. All you have to do is manage settings properly and adjust the vibration speed to a level where you both feel comfortable.
Solid Cock Rings
A solid ED device is there for experienced users who want to try something more challenging. Usually, that involves hard metal rings with no adjustments and no flexibility. However, we generally tend to avoid rings that can harm us, so we strongly recommend using a flexible, soft silicone option unless it’s a medically reviewed item meant for ED treatments.
Other Benefits of Using Penis Rings
Of course, we won’t just use a penis ring if we feel our penis failing and staying flaccid frequently. In fact, there are plenty of other reasons why gentlemen would get a hold of some tension rings and utilize them in the bedroom. So, let’s get over some of the benefits that cock rings bring aside from handling impotence.
ED rings work wonders when combined with a vacuum erection device. Affixing a penis pump to a member that already has a ring at its base will help maintain an erection and significantly expand the organ.
Because of how it swells up and all of the nerve endings, our penis with a cock ring on will be more sensitive than usual. And that is always a plus, no matter if we’re having intercourse, oral sex, or even if we masturbate. Having a ring on might awaken certain sensations we never knew we could feel before.
Perfect for Both Partners
Women can feel immense satisfaction while having intercourse with a man who has a cock ring. It allows them to feel their partner in different and exciting ways. And as we mentioned earlier, specific rings come with additional vibrators that help stimulate the clitoris. So, depending on the ring, the possibilities can be endless.
More Intense Oral Sex
Oral pleasure is an integral part of any healthy sexual relationship. Utilizing a device that can constrict blood flow and maintain an erection will give the partner more time to pleasure you orally. Furthermore, since your penis is more sensitive with the device on, you’ll enjoy the act in different and exciting ways.
More Intense Handjobs
A typical handjob might not sound as exciting as receiving oral sex or regular intercourse. Still, if done right, it can raise intimacy between partners. That level rises even further if the male partner uses a penile ring. Not only can the other partner satisfy them via regular handjobs, but they can also toy with the ring itself for additional pleasure.
Improving Anal Intercourse
Partners who enjoy anal intercourse will appreciate the use of cock rings. The device serves two functions here. The first is roughly the same as with any other form of intercourse. It’s there to enhance the penis and make the person on the receiving end feel immense satisfaction.
The second function a cock ring might serve involves penetration. If done well and safely, complete penetration with the ring on can provide a pleasant surprise for the partner. However, we have to stress that both parties consent to this act and that you lubricate your penis and your device before entry.
There are certain intricate cock rings that come with additional accessories, such as butt plugs, anal beads, cock locks, and even double-ended rings with two vibrators attached. These particular additions are meant to stimulate both the penis and the anus, and in some cases, even the prostate. These cock rings are an excellent tool if you like to stimulate both yourself and your partner at the same time.
Other Methods for Treating Erectile Dysfunction
To enhance sexual performance and maintain erections, people might be tempted to get other ED treatments that don’t involve them trying to use a cock ring. So, what other methods of handling impotence are there, and how safe can they be for us? Here’s a brief list of some of the most popular options.
Right now, there are certain medications on the market that can help increase blood flow, which is why they’re often marketed as ED drugs. Some of the most popular ones include Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra. Nearly all of them are FDA-approved, and experts securely process them regularly. But long-term use of even those products can cause issues, so we urge you to talk to your doctor before use.
When we talk about natural remedies, we refer to both certain lifestyle changes and actual substances that we can take. So, let’s quickly go over the consumable remedies first. The most prominent ones we can use right now include:
Horny goat weed
The list is relatively brief, but essential nonetheless regarding what lifestyle changes we can make.
First and foremost, we need to get our bodies in shape. That will entail physical activities, such as running, exercising, jogging, playing sports, hiking, biking, etc. Anything that can get the blood flowing will do the trick.
Next, it’s time to stop the intake of certain substances. To maintain an erection more frequently, we will have to quit smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or eating unhealthy food. Instead, we should focus on getting balanced meals, lots of rest, and drinking plenty of fluids to improve our bloodstream.
Finally, we must reduce the amount of stress in our lives. The more stressful we are, the less likely we’ll be to get hard and focus on staying hard throughout intercourse. So, if possible, we should frequently engage in activities that relax us and help reduce any feelings of anxiety, panic, and general annoyance.
Other Sex Toys
Cock rings aren’t the only toys that can stimulate a man enough to help him maintain an erection. In fact, that selection is rather vast, including but not limited to:
Aesthetic surgery for penis enhancement is incredibly popular, and some men do undergo these procedures in order to treat erectile dysfunction. However, we don’t recommend this approach. While it might help erectile dysfunction, it can also have the exact opposite effect. Furthermore, there are far too many cases of botched surgeries that cause irreversible damage to the groin area.
Ultimately, the problem with ED might not stem from your body but your mind. Taking that into account, it’s a good idea to visit a professional and talk the problem over with them. Sometimes, it’s also wise to have the partner come along. After all, some of the stress preventing an erection could result from relationship-related problems.
Cock Rings and ED Treatment: A Summary
Erectile dysfunction can be a severe condition with huge adverse effects on a man. That’s why medical devices like cock rings are vital and why we urge our readers to acquire one if necessary. However, as always, we stress that you practice caution when purchasing one such product. Make extra sure that it fits well and doesn’t constrict too much. Your safety must come first, and pleasure will inevitably follow.
Around 30% of men are not satisfied with their current penis size. We know that the average length of a human penis ranges between 5.1 and 5.5 inches, but even a fraction of an inch below that can make some men feel inadequate. And this feeling of inadequacy makes some men want to try and extend their members as much as possible with a penis extender.
One common method that men gravitate toward gaining an extra inch includes various penis enhancement products and sex toys. The article before you aims to handle that particular subject. More specifically, we’ll be talking about penile extenders, their effectiveness, and how we can use them easily and safely.
What Is a Penis Extender?
A penis extender is one of many male enhancement devices out there that men utilize to increase the size and thickness of their penis. Of course, they aren’t the same thing as penis pumps, though people tend to mix the two terms up due to how similar they might appear. We’ll cover these differences further down the article.
Penis extensions have been around for decades, their effectiveness comes with varying success. Some people speculate that penis extenders are the only scientifically proven way to increase the organ’s length. However, not all experts agree, and in fact, quite a large number will simply advise men not to use them.
So, let’s try to understand how this kind of penis enlargement device might help a man’s member grow permanently.
In the case of penile extender kits, we place our penis within the device that we first need to assemble. Each of these devices tends to contain three major sections:
The Basal ring
The front piece.
Let’s go over them quickly. The Basal ring is a circular section where we insert our penis and which goes against our pelvis. On the other end of the device, there’s the front piece with the space for fasteners. That’s the section that will be fastened to the head of our penis. Some of these pieces have a double-strap support system on the front part for added support.
Between these two parts, we find the extension arms, and more often than not, they will consist of a screw, a hexagonal cylinder, and a round cylinder. By turning the screws in a particular way, we increase or decrease the penis traction tension. Depending on the goal we aim to achieve and our experience, the penis traction force can be mild or intense.
Of course, the other type of extender we mentioned earlier is the sleeve-like device shaped like a penis. More often than not, these extenders are hollowed out and can have a unique base ring to insert our scrotum. In addition, each device comes with sensation nodes that stimulate the wearer, offering both partners plenty of enjoyment during sex.
Will Penis Extenders Work If Our Phallus Is Below Average?
A typical penis extension device, even a generic one with few settings, will fit most penises that are slightly below average. After all, the whole point is to make them a few inches bigger, at least. However, if we happen to have a penis that’s significantly smaller than average or if we suffer from some kind of condition, a basic model will just not do. Instead, we will need to buy a specifically designed model for that particular size.
Will Penis Extenders Work If Our Phallus Is Above Average?
Once again, generally speaking, all extenders will fit penises that are a little longer than the norm. However, if they are too long, we might need to buy special components that can extend the front piece that far or pick a piece with a double-strap system to hold the penis in place. Alternatively, if the girth is large, we’ll require special fastener attachment pieces.
Using a Penis Extender: A Step-By-Step Guide
Penis extenders are not a one-and-done deal like pills or pumps. If we want a bigger penis, it will be a process that will last for months and will require quite a bit of work on our end. So, here’s a handy beginners’ guide on how to get ourselves a longer penis and improve our self-esteem along the way.
We need to strategize before we even strap our penis enhancement device onto our reproductive organs. We will need to draft up a routine and stick to it. But, more importantly, we will have to record every result in a journal. Said journal will contain the following data for each day of stretching:
The exact length and circumference of our flaccid penis
The exact length and circumference of our erect penis
Traction tension levels
The items we used during the day (e.g., strap fasteners and comfort pads)
Any other notable changes (bruising, straightening of any penile curvature, unforeseen situations that result in the removal of the device)
Potential additional exercises that we do combined with the regime
The exact days we took a break from wearing the penis stretcher.
That last sentence might stand out to you a bit. What exactly do we mean by taking a break from wearing penis stretchers? Well, at least once a week, the wearer of the extender should take a full-day break to rest up. This way, they avoid damage to the penile shaft or the penis tissue.
The first four weeks are what we call ‘the adjustment period. This is the time we get to spend learning about our penis extender of choice and figuring out how it works. Moreover, our penis is getting used to the idea that there’s a device strapped onto it.
We start each week by placing the penis extension device onto our members and adjusting the tension to its lowest level. Of course, that level will vary depending on what device we have (e.g., the Jes Extender we mentioned earlier) and what our current penis size might be.
The next step is to wear the device for 3 hours almost every day. Anything longer than that will result in penile injury. On the other hand, if we don’t wear it enough, we will not be seeing any results anytime soon.
As stated earlier, we will need to have at least one whole day when we don’t wear the extender. That allows the penis to recover and adjust to its growing size and girth. This gives us time to return to the everyday normalcy of not having a plastic-and-metal tool for penis extensions strapped to us.
Near the beginning of week 4, we will want to increase the traction tension slightly. However, it shouldn’t be a drastic change so that we don’t cause any damage.
Once we’re done using the extender, we need to wash it and dry it well. Again, hygiene is crucial in this process, so think of the extender maintenance in the same way the ladies think about maintaining their sex toys. In other words, don’t let the screws rust, the plastic fade, and the entirety of the extender emit an unpleasant odor.
Last but not least, document absolutely everything.
With week 5 rolling in, we guess you got accustomed to both your device and your penis extensions now. So, with this new stage, we should also consider the last tension setting as the default. So, for example, if our original setting for week 1 was 1200 grams, and we changed it to 1300 by week 4, then our starting point for week 5 is 1300.
At this stage, it’s important to keep this setting up to week 9, where we will increase it by yet another level. But, again, nothing must be too drastic or sudden. Let’s remember that we want to make our penis longer and stronger, not bruised and abused. Suppose there are even slight hints of bruises, cuts, pain, discomfort, or general uneasiness. In that case, we need to write them down and see a medical professional ASAP.
One thing that will change during this period is the hours we need to wear the device. If we started off with 3 hours each day in week 1, we’d shift to 4 hours from week five onwards. However, we should also increase the number of days when we set our penis loose. For the first few weeks, we stick to the one-free-day regime. Later on, we can switch to having two days free instead (Wednesday and Thursday, for example).
If and when necessary, we must adjust our components. Adding more elongation bars, for example, could be a good idea if we see a lot of progress. After all, an extender is pointless if it falls short of providing enough elongation with the gear it contains.
As stated earlier, documenting everything is a must. Furthermore, double-check every single piece of data. A slight mistake or miscalculation can have devastating results.
The final ten weeks of the beginners’ course are the easiest when it comes to wearing the device itself. By that point, we’ve come to “know” our extender. Wearing it becomes second nature in week 11. We implement it as part of our daily routine, like brushing our teeth or showering.
However, the most challenging part of this period is the relative lack of immediate results. As a result, the penis extensions will be slightly smaller than usual. The results we’re writing down differ in as little as millimeters. But that doesn’t mean we should stop either extending or taking notes.
The process for these ten weeks is simple. Once again, we use the last tension setting from week ten as our basis. The very next week, we will increase the number a level higher. Naturally, even though we came this far with our routine, we still don’t want to up the level too much and too suddenly. Safety must always come first.
Up until week 15, we will stay with the 4-hour wear time and 1‒2 days of break each week. However, as soon as week 16 rolls by, we increase the wear time to 5 hours. Rest days, on the other hand, stay the same.
It’s worth pointing out that the device might feel uncomfortable to the wearer during these weeks. So, we need to adjust our penis extenders to accommodate our penis’ new length and girth. Getting additional elongation bars would be a good idea.
Don’t Fear the Plateau Effect
Generally speaking, the plateau effect refers to a phenomenon where a practice that we employed is no longer as effective as before. In other words, if we do something one too many times, we might get less impactful results.
This phenomenon is incredibly frequent with using penis extenders. Once the final few weeks roll in, we can notice that our penis is growing at a slower (and lower) rate than before. That’s perfectly normal with device-assisted penis extensions. Again we have to stress that the users of penis extenders ought to write down every single change, even a minor one.
Advice on Using Penis Enhancement Devices
Bigger penis size and better erection quality don’t just come from strapping penis extenders and moving about. We need to know precisely what to do and avoid when utilizing one of these devices. So, listed below are multiple useful penis elongation tips for any prospective man to peruse.
Get the Best Penis Extenders
Most penis extenders on the open market tend to be cheap devices with little to no effectiveness. Quite a few penile stretchers out there have caused injury and made the people who used them completely turn on the idea of medical extension tools. They either restrict blood flow too much or don’t keep the reproductive organ strapped in well. But not all penis extenders are like that, and the best ones will help.
So, what might the best extender out there be? Well, to answer that, we will need to do a bit of research. Nowadays, thousands of extender reviews extol the virtues and flaws of each listed device for penis extensions. By going over these reviews and customer feedback, shoppers can determine what works for them. We will provide our readers with a handy buyers’ guide later down this article.
Stick to the Routine
Using a cock extender is essentially like exercising. In other words, there’s a routine (like the one we described earlier), and the user needs to stick with it. Suppose there are minor deviations from the routine. In that case, that’s fine (e.g., if we wear the extender a few minutes over or under the allotted time). But there has to be continuity, and we have to maintain it.
However, there are specific points that we need to consider when drafting our routine. For example, while the number of hours ought to stay as is, there are specific times during the day when we shouldn’t be wearing a penis extender:
When we sleep, our cock should not have a plastic-and-metal device strapped onto it
Playing sports or doing intense physical activity will be dangerous with a penis extender on
Absolutely no penis extenders while we’re driving; it will cause discomfort and can interfere with our control over the vehicle, which might result in a crash.
Set Realistic Goals
We can’t expect any miracles from any phallus-lengthening routine. After all, even the best extenders on the market can’t exactly make a penis grow several inches.
So, as people who have had experiences using a penis extender, we have to stress this point. More often than not, the penis will be extended anywhere between 1 and 2 inches from its original size. That right there is the expected result from using an elongation device and a goal we need to set for ourselves. If we surpass it by a small margin (or fall short just a bit), we can still count it as a success.
Slow and Steady Wins the Race
One detail we’ve been repeating over and over in this article is that we cannot have huge leaps between levels of penis extensions. Much like everything else in life, the best results come after weeks of gradual build-up and hard work. If we were to use a high setting on the very first day, we could seriously hurt ourselves. In fact, that can result in not having a normal erection for a long time.
Let’s set the scene for you. First, imagine having a state-of-the-art medical device with screws, straps, and plastic bases strapped onto the penis. Then imagine wearing tight jeans or leather pants. It sounds painful, mainly because it absolutely is.
It’s all about common sense here. To feel the full effects of penis extenders, we have to wear loose-fitting clothes, such as boxer shorts and pants (e.g., sweatpants). It will feel comfortable, but it will give our groin area some breathing room as we move about our day and do our activities without even noticing that we have a penis extender on.
Avoid Using Penis Extenders as Sex Toys
Medical devices for penis extensions are not there to be our sex toys. They exist to increase penis length and, if necessary, correct penile curvatures. In other words, an extender might look like a penis pump or a masturbator (depending on the model). Still, it is not designed to help men during intercourse. So, we have to advise the men reading this article NOT to try and use it as one.
Since extenders involve straps and screws that directly affect the length of the penis, they can cause a lot of bruising, over-stretching, and even tearing. Those all sound painful and not exactly a recipe for success in achieving sexual pleasure.
We’ve covered setting realistic goals, but there’s one more detail we ought to stress. You shouldn’t stop there once you have the desired length and girth for your member. However, you should neither push extremely past that point to avoid tears and bruises.
Instead, dial the setting back and lower the tension level. After a certain point, the organ will ultimately start to retract back to its original length prior to all the penis extensions. By reducing the tension level and moving forward, the device will help the man maintain the current size.
Combine Penis Extensions with Other Routines
Sometimes, penis growth will have to involve more than one type of aid. With that in mind, you will want to combine other routines, methods, and techniques to reach your desired result. Here’s a brief list of everything a man can do to speed up the penis lengthening process:
Regular exercises (and reducing body fat, especially fat stored in the stomach)
Lots of fresh air
Proper dieting (e.g., cutting down on fatty foods, carbohydrates, alcohol, etc.)
Clean living, figuratively speaking (no drugs, no unsafe sex, no extreme sports)
Clean living, literally (keeping your room, your home, and yourself neat and tidy)
Routine check-ups at the doctor
One or two other clinically tested methods for penis extensions (more on that later).
Penis Lengthening Devices: A Buyers’ Guide
Now that we’ve acquainted everyone with the know-how of using a penis extender, it’s time to discuss shopping. Unfortunately, there are far too many scam brands that manufacture and sell faulty products. So, before we buy a device that looks like a pillory, we need to consider every single detail. That way, we’ll make sure not to buy a tool that will potentially maim us.
The Full Package
Many penis extenders don’t contain extra parts that we might require when we move along with our lengthening process. So, we buy additional stuff and sink more money into the purchase than necessary. Instead, we should aim to buy an extender with everything a prospective user might need. Those elements ought to include:
A double strap system
An expander system
A hypoallergenic exterior
Spare screws and pistons.
Comfort and Safety
A device for penis extensions ought to be safe for use. That means it should contain materials that won’t cause an allergic reaction and needs to work flawlessly without snatching the foreskin or squeezing the shaft too hard.
Furthermore, each device also needs to feel comfortable. After all, the man who uses an extender has to have it on for several hours during the day. That can feel dreadful if the device is too tight or too heavy.
Medical-Grade or Not
The extender we aim to buy must be clinically tested and have the approval of the FDA for medical use. At the very least, it should be in the process of gaining said approval. We must again remind our readers that extenders are medical devices meant to help people with physical deficiencies. We must have some sort of certification that marks our penis extenders safe for everyday use.
Amount of Tension
Some extenders tense up the penis too far and cause bruising. Others are barely strong enough to move it a tenth of an inch. Neither of these options works. We need a device that has a decent range of tension levels. With a tool like that, we can adjust the level based on how far we’ve come in the routine and how comfortable it feels for us.
User Feedback and Company Reputation
Company websites, are an excellent source for learning as much as possible about the people who make our products of choice. Firstly, we can dig up the company’s history, goals, credentials, experts, and lines of products. Next, we can compare and contrast the prices with other leading brands.
In addition to all of that, many extender manufacturers have a comment section on their websites, where we can take a look at user feedback for each product. However, in this regard, we recommend going to third-party evaluation websites and forums that discuss penis extensions. They will often have direct and detailed feedback from users who purchased their products from the company we’re interested in.
Many penis extenders are pricey, with some expert kits costing up to $200. That’s more or less an expected amount we could pay for a model that works well. Anything that’s drastically below that is generally low-end stuff that’s risky to use.
However, if the product’s price is hiked up and crosses three digits, we need to be careful. It’s more than likely a scam for gullible customers desperate for a quick solution to their problem.
Benefits of Using a Penis Extender Device
Length and Girth Gains
The biggest benefit of giving our reproductive organ a good stretching is that it will be bigger and thicker than before. Growing a single inch in length is no small feat, and some extenders can help us grow even beyond that. Furthermore, we no longer need a pump to achieve this effect. With enough tension, that thickness will come on its own.
Correcting Penile Curvatures
A phallus is not always as straight and firm as we might need it. Sometimes, it can end up bent and misshapen due to certain defects. Unfortunately, there are only two medical solutions to that issue, with one being corrective surgery (which doesn’t always work).
The second solution, of course, is to put our member in a penis extender and go through the regime. In a matter of weeks, it will be straight and hard again.
Treating Peyronie’s Disease
There are times when scar link tissue, also known as plaque, forms under the skin of our penis. It can misshape it and even cause it to bend, having a serious effect on our sexual performance. That condition is called Peyronie’s disease, and according to some experts, penis extenders can do something about it.
Lots of people have tried to treat Peyronie’s disease using these medical devices, and the results always tended to be positive. However, most of the reporting that came from the test subjects was anecdotal, so we need to take that information with a grain of salt. After all, the best way to correct Peyronie’s disease is to visit a doctor and seek out their advice.
Stamina and Self-Confidence Boost
A bigger, longer, harder dick means having more sex and maintaining a healthy erection. If we exercise long enough with our penis extender, we’ll progress in this area. That right there is a significant boost to one’s self-confidence. But in all honesty, just seeing a large penis ready for action can get any man motivated and feeling great.
Treating Erectile Dysfunction or ED
How many men complain about having a flaccid penis and problems with getting an erection? Yet, according to medical professionals and various studies, at least 52% of all men suffer from some type of erectile dysfunction. And not only is ED affecting the sex life of each man, but it can also be a huge blow to their self-esteem and confidence, which can lead to anxiety, depression, and anti-social behavior.
Therefore, to treat ED and help keep the penis hard, we recommend getting an extender. It’s cheaper and more effective than medication, plus it has a proven track record of success.
Alternatives to Penis Extender Devices
As stated earlier, penis pumps are not the same as extender devices. A pump’s whole point is to temporarily make one’s penis bigger through vacuum suction. If we don’t use them the right way, we can constrict the blood flow to our penis and get a serious injury.
However, penis pumps have their own benefits, too. Their effects might be temporary, but they provide an excellent psychological confidence boost. Plus, they work exceptionally well when combined with penoscrotal rings.
A penoscrotal ring is a device that’s fitted around the base of the penis and testes. Its main purpose is to restrict blood flow to the member. By doing that, we make our organs stay hard longer than usual. In addition, it swells up and becomes harder than ever. Naturally, we recommend not using this method too much unless the ring is just your size, as it can have a devastating effect on the testicles.
Male Enhancement Supplements
Male enhancement pills such as Viagra or Cialis are everywhere. They are an excellent source of energy for our sex drive, but their effects are short-lasting. In addition, since both of the products mentioned are over-the-counter drugs, the user might develop an addiction. Nevertheless, they are all FDA-approved and safe when taken in proper doses.
Jelqing is a form of workout routine that’s supposed to make our erections stronger and harder than before. Depending on which expert we ask, jelqing can help the penis grow in a number of ways. However, science still can’t definitively say that these exercises work because there’s just not enough data available.
Penile Enlargement Surgery
Surgery should be the very last resort for anyone willing to extend their penis. To achieve their desired penile length, some men pay upwards of $15,000 per procedure. That’s a hefty sum right there, and it doesn’t even guarantee safety.
Unfortunately, thousands of men across the globe tend to have bloated penises after the procedure and usually have trouble ejaculating or even feeling anything. And there have been plenty of cases that had even more horrific results than that. To put it simply, it’s just not worth it — if you have a choice, always go with the penis extender.
Penis Extenders: Final Thoughts
Throughout our article, we’ve mentioned many times that penis extenders are not sex toys meant to bring instant pleasure. Instead, they are serious medical tools that can significantly improve the lives of millions of men sensitive about their penis size. So, if you’re reading this, know this — penis extensions are definitely something you’ll want to try. If you do it safely and by the book, you can achieve great success.
So, if you aim to make your member grow a couple of inches in length and girth, get a penis extender today!
Let’s discuss masturbators. For a long time, the sex toy market favored women, providing an array of products to enhance their masturbation and pleasure. But, on the other hand, men had to rely on their hands and a box of kleenex.
Thankfully, the situation has changed. Now, penis owners can also have their bedside drawers filled with male sex toys. That means you can finally give your right (and left) hand a break after the long and lonely pandemic year — the time has come to check out a few sex toys.
One of the best ways you can upgrade your solo sessions from good to apologizing-to-your-neighbors is with the help of male masturbators. Tempting, right? But before you click add to cart button, here are ten facts you need to know about this popular sex toy.
Masturbators Come in Different Shapes and Sizes
Male masturbators are essentially sleeves you put your penis into to mimic the sensation of penetration during masturbation. They come in many different forms. For example, you can find discreet-looking eggs with nodules designed to tease your nerve endings or fleshlights that look like vulvas. There are also rechargeable vibrating masturbation toys that give feedback and provide stamina training.
So, no matter how deep, rough, or tight you want to go, you can always find a suitable masturbator. In conclusion, warm apple pie, they aren’t.
Do masturbators provide a significant improvement compared to your handy work? Yes, they do. Just like a perfect sauce can make your steak taste much better, a good masturbator can take your solo play to another level.
Another thing to consider is that masturbators don’t have to be used only for solo play. Some companies like We-Vibe create adult toys for couples to enjoy together. For example, We Vibe Wand comes with an attachment so both partners can enjoy stimulation simultaneously.
Masturbators Are Not the Same as the Real Thing, But They Come Pretty Close
Let’s be honest. No toy can feel exactly like having intercourse with a partner. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t spice up your solo sessions while going through a dry spell.
The best male masturbators are designed to create a feeling similar to having penetrative sex. They consist of high-grade silicone and, when used together with a lube, can provide you with hours of fun. Some models can even warm up to the body temperature, enhancing the intimate experience further.
There Are Hundreds (Yes, Hundreds) of Different Types of Masturbators
According to the Tenga 2020 Global Self-Pleasure Report, 84% of Americans consider their solo playtime a form of self-care, resorting to them as a coping mechanism during the COVID-19 pandemic. Likewise, 68% of the US citizens said they had used sex toys, more often during social isolation and will continue to use them more frequently.
As the demand for sex toys grows, the masturbator companies are more than happy to meet it. Nowadays, guys can choose between hundreds of male masturbators, and the options are getting more creative each day. But if you are a newbie, picking the right one can be overwhelming. So, here are nine common types of masturbators.
While you can avoid it with more advanced masturbators, manual labor is still required with most masturbation sleeves. Sleeves can come in various shapes and sizes. Their prices can range from as little as $10 to around $300 depending on the materials, size, additional functions, etc. Check out a few sleeves you can find in the sex toy stores.
Even if you are a complete novice in the masturbator world, you’ve probably already heard about fleshlights. Fleshlights are one of the most popular male sex toys. These masturbational sleeves were originally designed to look discreet and resemble a flashlight — hence the name. You can also find them in the shape of ‘Tall Boy’ style beer cans.
Fleshlights are a vagina or anus contained within a cylinder. It is hidden inside the packaging that looks inconspicuous. You can keep them next to your bed (and pray no one in your home comes asking for a real flashlight). Depending on the model, you can either finish inside it or spill the juice through it if the other end is open.
The original fleshlights have a super-soft skin-like feel and are the closest thing to a real deal you get when practicing solo. There are other models in the adult toy stores, and the real-life feel will depend on the quality of your fleshlight.
Yes, we agree that an egg isn’t exactly the most erotic of items. And if you have trouble picturing how your favorite body part would fit into something that could’ve come out of a chicken’s butt, you are not alone. But don’t shy away from this masturbation toy just yet because there’s a reason behind its popularity — and don’t worry, it isn’t anything kinky.
Although these eggs look odd and hard, the egg part is just the package. Inside them, there’s a sleeve. The toy has a small opening, where you put the lube and swiftly follow with your penis. The interior is usually textured, with different eggs sporting bumps and ridges.
Eggs are meant to be disposable. So it would be best to get rid of them after you are done. But technically, you can use them three or four times, making sure to wash and dry them between uses and then throw them away.
If you are a guy who thinks evolution has already gifted you with a perfect masturbation tool — your hand — wait until you try strokers. Strokers are a men’s masturbation toy with a rigid or flexible casing covering the entire penis and stimulating you as you move them up and down your shaft. Great for solo or with a partner.
Strokers can be as simple as a plain silicone tube and as high-end as a remote-controlled, app-connected vibrating masturbator. Modern, high-end strokers are very powerful, have sensors, provide feedback, and you can use apps to customize the whole experience. Some even use pressure-wave technology that stimulates the sensitive frenulum and provides mind-blowing orgasms.
Is your partner not really into oral sex? No problem — use your oral sex simulator instead. Not only are these masturbation toys often shaped like a mouth, but they also provide suction sensations to make it feel like a real blowjob.
They are usually made of rubber, silicone, elastomer, or other similar materials. Aside from the manual blowjob masturbators, you can also buy an automatic version for a more powerful experience.
A pocket pussy is another sex toy created for penis owners that simulates penetrative sex with a partner. Those toys resemble a vagina and often feature lips and clitoris.
They can be small enough to fit in your hand or big enough to pass as a real-life vagina. While a palm-size pocket pussy is more discreet and easier to stash away, the life-size pussies are often modeled after an actual woman and provide an irreplaceable experience.
Many pocket pussies have an open end because it’s easier to clean them, but some models are closed. Those toys that don’t have an exit hole usually provide a light suction feel. Furthermore, you can find pocket pussies in various materials. Still, most manufacturers use silicone because it’s the softest and provides the most realistic sensation.
As you probably guessed, anal masturbators are an a-hole equivalent of pocket pussies. So, if you find the back entrance more appealing than the vajayjay, this toy might be the perfect fit. Depending on your preferences, you can find a hand-held version or a life-size ass.
Most anal masturbators feature a simple hole you can use as you please, but they require your effort to work. The more expensive ones are battery-powered and can simulate anal sex and do the heavy lifting for you.
Porn Star Masturbators
Yes, we all have the one actress that can make our king rise no matter how tired or stressed we are. Also, sadly, the odds of meeting her in person or talking her into doing something dirty are slim to nonexistent. But that doesn’t mean she is entirely out of reach. A stroker molded after her pussy, mouth, or asshole might be the next best thing.
Porn Star masturbators are created after real-life actresses from adult movies. So, for your next solo playtime, you might want to pick the one that sports your all-time favorite actress’ orifice and give it a go. Imagine how great it would be to watch her perform and feel her around your shaft simultaneously!
There’s also a company called 3Fap that organized a beautiful vagina contest. After picking the three most beautiful vaginas in the world, the company created stroker versions of them. So, now you can tap them if you buy one of the three available versions.
It’s a brave new world out there in the male sex toys department with the life-size masturbators in the shape of your favorite body part. Vaginas, butts, breasts, penises, and every possible combination of the four are now available to enjoy without the rest of the body attached.
The plus side is that you enjoy the penetration, having something to hump against, and the added weight this male sex toy provides. On the other hand, life-size masturbators tend to be bulkier than others and probably won’t fit inside your bedside drawer. Also, since they are not quite discreet, you might want to steer clear of them if you have nosy roommates.
How to Use Male Masturbation Toys
Before you rush to buy your first masturbator, keep in mind that these toys are not one-size-fits-all, no matter what advertisements say. Just like there are no two penises alike, different people also have different preferences during their play sessions. For instance, some like their masturbators to provide a tight fit, while others enjoy a loose sleeve.
So, the key is to pay attention if a masturbator’s size, length, and girth match yours. Once you have the perfect toy ready, it’s time to add lubricant. Depending on how your masturbator works, you might need to insert the lube inside the orifice and sometimes into the outer sleeve or case as well.
Since the best male masturbators are silicone, it’s important to remember to use water-based lubes. Otherwise, you risk damaging your masturbator. Hybrid, silicone, and oil-based lubes are not okay to use. They will destroy your masturbator.
The mechanics behind male masturbators are pretty simple. There’s no right or wrong way to do it. First, you put enough lube inside your sex toy and commence thrusting. Or, if you opt for a vibrating toy, sit back and relax while the toy does its magic.
Still, bear in mind that easing into your toy should never hurt. It might be tighter than you are used to, but not uncomfortable. Masturbators with a flexible body allow you to adjust the pressure with your grip. In contrast, those with a hard body don’t offer the same luxury. If it hurts, pull out and try something else.
No one says you have to stick to the same routine every time you play solo. A simple change of positions can do wonders and produce different sensations. For instance, if you tend to stand during masturbation, try leaning against a wall. Or, if you are always lying down, try sitting up.
Take Your Time
Using a masturbator after a lifetime of hanging out with your hand will probably send you off the rails all too soon. But once you get used to the fantastic new stimulation, you can learn to slow down and experiment with strokes and speeds and even add another toy, like a prostate massager, into the mix.
Move Your Hips
Unless you own a life-size masturbator, it’s easy to forget to move your hips during solo playtime. But mixing gyrating and thrusting motions with the hand movements can help increase the intensity and bring you more pleasure.
Clean Up Afterwards
You should clean masturbators before and after each use to prevent infections. As with any other sex toy, sharing your masturbator with other people is not advisable. But if you can’t avoid it, use a condom or clean them properly before swapping.
Manual and Vibrating Masturbators Offer Significantly Different Experience
If you are looking for an experience that resembles penetrative sex as much as possible, you should opt for manual masturbators. They often come with various attachments. You can experiment until you find the one that feels the most realistic to you. On the other hand, vibrating masturbators offer entirely new sensations that you could never achieve with your hand, manual masturbators, or even sex.
You Can Use Masturbators as Often as You Wish
You can never have too much fun, right? In this case, it’s true. You can use your masturbator many times a week or day (hello, lockdowns), as long as it fits into your life in a healthy way.
If you masturbate multiple times a day and still lead a healthy, fulfilled life, everything is okay. The key is to take proper care of your sexual health and stop at the first signs of discomfort or pain.
But suppose it makes you miss work, sex with your partner and otherwise negatively affects your life. In that case, you should consider talking to a sex therapist. Moreover, if you notice changes on your skin, like redness, sensitivity, or chafing, try reducing the masturbator use to a minimum and better care of your penis.
Male Masturbators Are Easy to Maintain
Many hesitate to give masturbators a shot because the process seems too messy, and cleaning the toy after each use sounds like too much work. But male masturbation toys are pretty easy to clean, just like any other sex toy.
Aside from the disposable kinds, like eggs, that offer quick and easy cleanup, masturbators with open ends are the easiest to clean. You ejaculate into a tissue or somewhere else, so there’s not much to clean.
Many close-ended toys also allow you to disassemble some parts to better clean hard-to-reach places. However, suppose that’s not the case with your close-ended masturbator. In that case, you have to pay special attention to cleaning and to disinfect the inner part.
In any case, following a proper cleaning procedure is very important. You can wash all masturbators with warm water and antibacterial soap. You can also purchase a special sex toy cleaner. Once you are done cleaning your toy, leave it out to dry because putting away a damp toy can cause stains and nasty smells.
You should always clean your sex toys thoroughly to avoid bacteria build-ups. Inspect your toy after use for any scratches or breakage because that’s where bacteria will accumulate. Using dirty masturbators can lead to infections and damage your health. If you notice that the damage is too severe, purchase a new toy.
The Experience Is Not Risk-Free
Sure, using masturbators is a low-risk activity. No one ever caught an STD while playing with themselves. If you listen to your body and take care of your sensitive skin, you will likely be fine. Also, if you take proper care of your masturbator and don’t share it with other people, there’s almost no risk of infection.
That being said, frequent and rough masturbation can cause skin irritations. Also, forcefully bending an erect penis can burst the blood-filled chambers, resulting in penile fracture, a rare but painful condition.
The Best Male Masturbators
If all that sounds good and you are ready to get fresh with your self-play, here are the best masturbators to try.
Sue Johanson Head Honcho
For those who want to hit it and quit it, Sue Johanson Head Honcho is a masturbation sleeve that works fast. This shaft has caressing nodules at its base and houses three delectable suction cavities for mind-blowing orgasms.
Head Honcho is tight and stretchy, ready to give you the instant pleasure you seek. In addition, such simple masturbators are often waterproof, which means you can take them to the shower or tub with you.
Kiiroo Onyx+ Interactive Masturbator
If you have trouble in the up-and-down department, vibrating masturbators can lend you a helping hand. Vibrant, light, and quiet, Kiiroo Onyx+ can reach up to 140 strokes per minute for a truly powerful, hands-free experience.
You can connect this masturbator to an app or interactive content like video, virtual reality, 3D partner games, or webcam sites. Or you can synchronize it with your partner’s phone or another sex toy and then use them simultaneously.
Tenga Flip Hole — Black
On the outside, Tenga Flip Hole looks high-tech and sleek. But when you flip it open, you will notice that every centimeter is densely packed with every stimulant imaginable, from pumps, flaps, and gates to nubs and rubs. Thanks to the practical flip-style technology, this toy is straightforward to clean and dry, making it a pleasure to use.
Satisfyer Men Classic — Black
Satisfyer Men Classic is a classic fleshlight-style masturbator. While many penis owners opt for this toy simply because it has a hole (pure pleasure, no fuss), this brand has thrown in a couple more features. There’s an inner pressure regulator you can adjust and grooved texture. And it’s also pretty affordable!
Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo
You don’t need Cirque du Soleil skills to masturbate hands-free. Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo can do the trick. All you need to do is keep your hands to yourself and let this innovative toy take over. Hot Octopuss Pulse is the world’s first interactive Guybrator. You can connect it with over 4000 interactive videos (2D or VR), your partner’s phone from anywhere globally, your favorite cam model, or sites!
Fun Factory Cobra Libre II Male Masturbator — Black
Cobra Libre II is an ideal male masturbator for all those needing a discreet sex toy. It is quiet enough not to interrupt your imagination (or prompt someone else to do it). Also, it looks so weird that if you have an unsolicited home visitor, you can tell them it’s a high-tech smart mouse, and no one will question you. Finally, cobra Libre features eleven vibration settings and is waterproof so that you can use it in the shower.
Fun Factory Manta Man Tool — Deep Sea Blue
Fun Factory’s Manta is rechargeable, submersible, and made in Germany, so you know it will last. The unique thing about the Manta masturbator is that it will hit the right spot — wherever that is for you — thanks to its ergonomic shape. Moreover, it is designed to bring pleasure for both solo times and couple play.
You Can Combine Them With Other Sex Toys
There’s more to your genitals than just your penis, and, thankfully, there are many toys to show the rest some love. So, why not combine your masturbator session with anal beads, a prostate massager (male G-spot), or a butt plug?
What If You Don’t Like It?
Masturbators sound amazing and can be a great addition to your masturbation routine. That being said, some people have tried them and decided against them. The most common detriment guys list for masturbators is the struggle of finding the right fit. Since you can’t exactly try a masturbator on the spot to see if it suits you, there’s a big chance it will be too short, too long, too tight, or too loose.
Moreover, some guys report that a plastic vagina doesn’t do it for them. If that is the case with you, it’s completely fine. Kudos for getting out of your comfort zone and trying something different. Now that you know what you don’t like, you can look for something that does get you up and high, like a prostate massager that hits your male G-spot.
Finding a perfect solo session gadget is not easy, but male masturbators feel like a natural starting point. From simple silicone tubes to high-tech app-controlled strokers, there certainly are many sex toys to try and sort through until you find the one that fits your penis like a glass slipper.
But don’t forget to add some water-based lube into the cart as well. After you dive into the world of male masturbators, you might not feel like coming out for days.
If you are a fan of tv-shows like “The L Word,” “Broad City,” “Sense8”, and “Orange Is the New Black,” you’ve probably noticed some of the steamy scenes featuring its royal highness — a strap-on. But if you rely solely on Hollywood for knowledge, you might get the wrong picture that strap-ons only go hand-in-hand with queer sex or the Dom/sub play.
The truth is, anyone can use a strap-on. It can be a fun addition to your sex life, allowing you to experiment and increase intimacy with your partner. But if you’ve never owned a strap-on before, you probably have many questions like how to use this sex toy and what kinds of strap-ons are there.
Keep reading to learn all there is to know about strap-ons!
What Is a Strap-On?
A strap-on is a sex toy typically made up of two parts: a dildo and a harness (used to secure the dildo to a person). In most cases, the harness has an O-ring you put a flared-based dildo through to hold it in place. As you’ve probably already assumed, it is meant to mimic the experience of having a penis.
The person who “straps on” the dildo usually wears it low on the body, with the flat surface of the dildo resting over the pubic area. Aside from the two main parts, some strap-ons can also have an internal or external bullet vibrator, which allows the person wearing it to feel the stimulation.
These strap-on sex toys come in various styles to cater to different needs, including strap-free, hollow, curved, and detachable options. Anyone can use them, regardless of genitalia, for masturbation or penetrative sex with a partner of any gender or sexual orientation. That means strap-ons are suitable for vaginal, anal, and oral penetration.
Most strap-ons you see in sex toy stores are designed for women. However, there are also models with hollow dildos for people with erectile dysfunction or smaller penises.
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Types of Strap-Ons
Generally speaking, there are two main types of strap-ons: the ones with straps and the ones without them. But you will notice that strap-ons come in different sizes and styles, and each one is meant to suit a certain technique or create specific sensations. That’s why you can find various harnesses and strap-on dildos to mix and match. Here are the three most common strap-on harness styles.
Underwear-style harnesses resemble briefs or boxers and are designed with comfort in mind. You can wear them all day or during sex and avoid chafing — something most people face with traditional strap-ons. Underwear-style strap-ons are a great choice if you are a beginner in pegging and strap-on penetration since there’s no need to adjust them.
As you can guess by its name, this version looks like a thong. It features one strap between the legs and butt cheeks and one around the waist.
This harness option looks like a regular jockstrap. It goes around the waist and over both butt cheeks.
Some models center around plastic or metal O-rings, allowing you to switch dildos during sex easily. You can put on any strap-on dildo or a sex toy that features a flat base, and the ring will keep it in place.
Unisex harnesses have a crotchless design that fits around the waist and legs and adjustable straps. That leaves enough space for the user’s clitoris or shaft to be accessible.
Strap-on dildos come in every shape, size, color, and material imaginable. You can pick the ones that look and feel like a real penis or the more playful ones. Take a look at some fun strap-on dildos you can combine with a harness for successful strap-on sex.
Curved tip dildos are designed to hit the G-spot in vulva-owners or the P-spot in people with prostates. They are usually not too long and are slightly curved upward.
As previously mentioned, originally intended for men with erectile dysfunction, hollow strap-on dildos allow penis owners to insert their shaft into a toy to add more girth or prolong the sex sessions.
Double dildos require a particular type of strap-on harness. You can use this strap-on for simultaneous vulva-to-vulva or vulva-to-anal penetration of the wearing and the receiving partner.
Strap-on dildos suitable for pegging are usually thinner and curved. Moreover, they come with a slimmer, more practical harness that makes anal sex more comfortable.
Strapless strap-ons don’t have a harness but instead comprise a dildo with a vaginal plug on the other end. They stay in place because they are inserted in the wearer’s vagina or anus, stimulating their P-spot or G-spot. Strapless dildos are meant for simultaneous anal and vaginal insertion. Use them for pegging or penetration between two women.
You can use different standalone vibrators and dildos with a removable harness, like bunny-style vibrators or prostate massagers. Or you can buy vibrating strap-ons that come with a dildo and cord-attached remote that controls it and enjoy extra stimulation.
Why People Like Strap-Ons
These sex toys allow users to experience penetrating their partner in a unique way. For instance, women might enjoy the role reversal if they have a partner with a penis. In addition, men may want to experience anal play because the P-spot stimulation can lead to a powerful anal orgasm.
People with vulvas might also like the different experience of being penetrated anally or vaginally via strap-on, helping them reach the G-spot. Some people also prefer having oral sex while sporting a strap-on. Such sex toys are used in power plays. One person, generally the one wearing the strap-on, dominates the other.
How to Use a Strap-On
Although it looks simple enough, using a strap-on is not quite an intuitive process. So, if you are new to the whole experience, here are some pointers.
Find a Model That Fits You
As we discussed before, the two main components that make a strap-on are the harness and the dildo. For everything to go smoothly, you need both of them to fit you like a glove.
Wash Before Each Use
The general rule of thumb with sex toys is to keep them clean to avoid getting harmful bacteria into your body. So, wash your strap-ons before and after each use.
Use Plenty of Lube
Lubricants are a must. They will enhance your strap-on play, no matter what kind of penetration you are into. However, be careful to opt for a lube that pairs well with your strap-on’s materials. For instance, silicone-based lube can damage silicone dildos and put your health at risk, so you should avoid mixing them.
Talk to Your Partner Before You Begin
If you want to introduce strap-ons into your sex life, always check if your partner is up for it as well. If you are on the same page, open communication is one of the keys to making it work. Wearers can find it difficult to judge the penetration intensity accurately, so they should listen to the partner’s feedback.
Make Sure Everything Is Adjusted Properly
Take time to check if the harness and dildo are adjusted so you can have more control. If the dildo or harness is too loose, you won’t be able to make smooth, stroking motions. You will probably have to stop and adjust several times, ruining the mood.
Choose the Right Position
You might want to start with a cowgirl position if you are a novice. The wearer should lie on their back, allowing the partner to control the insertable length. Once you gain some experience and feel more comfortable, you can try other sex positions.
Take It Slowly
Using these sex toys requires a bit of technique which you learn through practice. That is especially true for vulva owners who are learning to wield a new body part.
The Best Sex Positions for a Strap-On Play
Technically nothing prevents you from using a strap-on in every possible sex position, except for your and your partner’s boundaries. Still, the easiest positions to get started are rider positions, doggy style, and missionary. They offer maximum stability and slow insertion, making it less likely the strap-on will fall out.
Those who prefer the back entrance can also try penetrating from behind while the partner kneels or lies on the bed. Depending on the partners’ height, penetration while standing up might also be an option.
Shopping for a Strap-On
Since there are so many options to choose from, buying a strap-on requires time and money. It can take a while to figure out what you like, and you might not be as lucky as to find the perfect harness-dildo combo on your first try. But if you think the strap-on play will become a big part of your sex life, it is worth the investment.
Harnesses usually consist of thick cotton, soft plastics, nylon, or leather. Of course, all those materials are body-safe, but more expensive ones, like leather, typically don’t cause as much chafing.
The harness is supposed to fit tightly but not irritate or cut too deeply into your skin. At the same time, it shouldn’t be wobbly or stretchy because the dildo will pull away from it. So, aim for adjustable harnesses that you get to fit snugly around your body.
If you can, try a couple of harnesses on in the store before deciding. That way, you will get a sense of dimensions and size.
When choosing strap-on dildos, consider materials you and your partner prefer. For instance, you might like silicone because it’s soft, flexible, and the most lifelike. Or perhaps a glass because it’s hard, smooth, and allows for temperature play.
That being said, the most reliable materials are glass, stainless steel, and 100% silicone. Materials to avoid are phthalates, rubber, and jelly. Phthalates are often put in sex toys because they are cheap and increase flexibility. However, they are also linked to a number of health risks like asthma, low IQ in fetuses, etc.)
Cheap materials like rubber and jelly expose you to toxic chemicals like phthalates and are also highly porous. That means you can never completely sterilize them.
In any case, eager newbies should choose a smaller dildo at first, especially if they are planning to do anal penetration. Then, as you gain more experience and skills, slowly expand the range of dildos you put inside your harness. It’s important to note that you should never use butt plugs with strap-ons because they are not meant for an in-and-out motion.
How to Care for and Clean Strap-Ons
Not being careful about hygiene can transfer STIs between you and your partners and cause urinary tract infections and yeast infections. So, take time to clean and sterilize your toys.
Nylon and thick cotton harnesses and most dildos are machine washable. However, latex and leather harnesses and vibrating dildos usually require hand-washing with warm water and antibacterial soap. Another option is to purchase special sex toy cleaners. As for non-vibrating dildos made of silicone, stainless steel, or glass, you can put them in boiling water for ten minutes to sanitize them.
The specific instructions will depend on the strap-on material and model you choose. So, make sure to read the instructions that come with sex toys. If you are still unsure how to clean the dildo or harness after consulting the user’s manual, reach out to the manufacturer. Proper cleaning is crucial!
Store your strap-on in the original packaging, a satin bag, or a plastic storage box. By doing so, you will prevent the dust and dirt buildup.
Common Myths About Strap-Ons
Although sex toys are no longer a taboo topic, there are still many misconceptions about them, aided by poor portrayals in movies and TV shows. So, let’s look at a few common myths about strap-ons.
Only Lesbian Couples Use Strap-Ons
Anyone can use this sex toy, no matter their partners’ genders or sexual orientations. As mentioned above, there are strap-ons for women, men, and even those suitable for self-pleasure.
Only Gay Men Enjoy Penetration/Pegging
Again, anyone can like anal penetration, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. The anus is just another body part that can receive pleasure, like the vagina or penis.
You Can’t Use It Solo
You can use a strap-on during a solo play. Tie a strap-on to a chair, bed, or other pieces of furniture and add it to your masturbation routine. Or you can purchase a special harness that ties a dildo to your foot and pleasure yourself in a kneeling position.
The Best Strap-Ons for Every Kind of Play
We’ve rounded up a list of user favorites to help you decide where to start your strap-on hunt. Check them out!
Fetish Fantasy Series First Timers Strap-On Set — Purple
This 5.5-inch dildo is practically invented for beginners and pegging. It’s of the perfect size, easy to put on, for smooth insertion and maximum pleasure.
This harness is very comfortable for more prolonged use since it doesn’t limit your movements. It is also practical since you can combine it with any silicone dildo. But don’t let the higher price get you down. Once you try this adjustable harness, you will wish you never wasted money on cheap ones.
Sportsheets Lace Strap On Corsette — Red
This harness is as pretty as it is practical. It offers excellent resilience and control and comes with three interchangeable O-rings to mix and match different dildos.
Sportsheets New Comers Strap-on and Dildo Set
This harness kit includes an adjustable harness and a tiny dildo with only four inches of insertable length. It is great for pegging and those who don’t want to spend a fortune until they know if the strap-on sex is something they enjoy.
Perfect Fit Zoro 5.5″ Strap On Kit — Purple
Zoro is a cross between a jockstrap and an underwear strap-on. It features an elastic waistband and straps for a stable fit, no matter the user’s body shape. This silicone dildo is hollow and lightweight, making it a good option for both men and women.
Strap U Vibrating Strapless Silicone Strap-On Dildo
Many people feel strapless strap-ons are intimidating because you need to hold them in place using your vaginal muscles. However, wearers report that keeping the toy in place in such a manner is the only way to enjoy the strap-on play. Up to you to decide!
Sportsheets Thigh Harness
Strap this harness around your thigh to provide your partner with another penetration tool, or wrap it around a pillow during solo play. Of course, thigh harnesses are not for everyone. But they can be a good alternative when you want to get physically closer to your partner while letting them enjoy penetration.
Strap U Unity Double Penetration Strap On Harness Black
If you wish to experiment with double penetration, this strap-on is a good choice. It contains two O-rings to hold two dildos — the upper one for vaginal and the lower one for anal penetration.
Strap-ons can be a great addition to your sex life. They let you experiment with switching roles, create fantasy scenarios, and try things like power play or double penetration. However, finding the best strap-on for you is like Goldilocks’s porridge: it takes a few tries to discover the one that is just right.
So, give yourself time to learn to wield this toy and discover all the fun ways to reach more pleasure and the best orgasms ever. You might even open the door to a whole new niche you didn’t even know existed.
During the many open conversations our culture and society have regarding sexuality, three words get asked without a definitive answer or conclusion–does size matter? Much like the preferences of art, literature, and film, the answer is one that’s completely subjective and will differ greatly depending upon who’s asked the question. We bring this up because addressing the topic is actually quite difficult for some. Despite the recent strides many have made in terms of divorcing themselves from the toxic masculinity that’s been a major part of their upbringing, the underpinnings of the male ego still exist when it comes to the awareness that they might have issues measuring up to the competition.
Superficiality and the Fragility of Ego
While the ego and self-esteem of some might whimper or be hindered by not having a member of unusual or above-average size, many are quick to assume that what lies between their legs is the definitive statement as to establish their worthiness of the affection of others. This, of course, is a falsehood that while difficult to overlook from time to time, is easily explained away.
The prospect that a smaller-sized organ is a basis for an entire relationship is immature, superficial, and so far removed from reality, that it’s essentially a non-issue in the real world. If anything, this is a good example of the unrealistic expectations set by celebrity culture and fictionalized accounts that take place in mainstream pornographic films. While pornography is healthy and can benefit excitement in the bedroom, it’s a reality that’s fabricated and not to be seen as a direct representation of life.
The bottom line is this–the size of someone’s genitalia is not the be-all-end-all factor in a long-lasting relationship.
Medical Facts About Penis Size
The average flaccid penis measures about 3 inches in length and this number is expanded to roughly 5 when erect. This is considered the average across the male population, so even if your partner isn’t the second incarnation of John Holmes or Harry Reams, there’s a good chance that their member is a size that’s acceptable.
However, there are actual cases that are attributed to those whose members are considered smaller than average. We’ve opted to focus on three in particular that are the most common.
Trapped Penis This occurs after the male penis is circumcised after birth. It’s very important that the genitalia heals properly. When this doesn’t occur, the penis can become trapped beneath the skin, hindering growth.
Webbed Penis This occurs when the scrotal skin gets attached too high to the penis, causing it to look smaller than it actually is.
Buried Penis This is a rare occurrence when there’s an excessive amount of extra skin around the penis. Men who have this affliction have trouble getting aroused, erect, and performing. Luckily, this can be alleviated through cosmetic surgery.
While we’re on the subject of medical research, it’s important to remember that a larger member doesn’t instantly equate to great sex and orgasm through penetration. As a matter of fact, female orgasm is seldom hindered by size and more by stress. If you’re concerned about the ability to reach a proper climax with your partner, have a line of communication open. But also remember that poor self-esteem can be a major factor in someone’s ability to perform in the bedroom–so talk about the situation tactfully.
Great Sex When Size is Taken Out of the Equation
If we go under the assumption that size has no bearing on sexual pleasure, and that a night of passion can be had with someone of less than average size, we’ve amassed some tips from experts that can accentuate the night and make the possibilities for pleasure seem endless.
Just as anxiety can hinder the achievement of female orgasm, the same can be said about the male erection. While your partner might not have an issue with getting hard, it might not be at its fullest potential. Introducing foreplay into the evening might be the extenuating circumstances that are needed for a natural extension.
While the female vagina gets “wet” when it’s properly aroused, many couples tend to favor lubrication for easy entry and penetration. We recommend trying the experience with less lube to accentuate the sensation. For anal penetration, it’s still recommended that you be generous with lube and its application.
Just because your partner might not be a tripod, doesn’t mean he can’t rock your body. One of the ways you can elevate the pleasure during penetration is to utilize the same pelvic muscles that you use when you hold back urine. (This seems gross, we know. But we wanted to get the point across in a way that was instantly understandable.)
Another technique you can try is experimenting with new positions. One of the greatest things about a sexual relationship between two consenting adults is the aspect of breaking new boundaries and attempting to take pleasure and ecstasy to new and exciting thresholds.
Of course, here in the modern era, there’s always a solution to almost any problem. One way in which some men find relief from their size issues is by the use of a penis pump. This device allows blood to flow to the penis much quicker, allowing an erection that’s a bit larger than usual. Effective, adequate priced, and non-invasive, the device has satisfied customers and even received high praise from the Mayo Clinic as a safe way to treat erectile dysfunction and offer a short-term solution in the bedroom.
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