For many people, they can’t imagine admitting they watch porn. Watching porn with your partner might seem unimaginable. The reality is, though, that a lot of people watch it, single or not.
No matter what you’ve been taught, porn isn’t your dirty little habit. It’s a healthy part of sexuality. Chances are, if you’re watching it, your partner might be, too. Why not cut to the chase and not only admit you like it, but watch it together? You’ll see plenty of benefits when you do.
More Sexual Satisfaction
Anytime you have to hide things that turn you on or how you experience your fantasies (ahem, by watching porn), you become stifled. There’s secrecy between you and your partner. On the other hand, watching porn together pulls back the curtain on who you are. It gives you an opening to talk about what you enjoy (or don’t). You can admit the things you want to try without feeling as embarrassed.
In more concrete terms, you’ll watch the sexy stuff together. One or both of you will get turned on, maybe whisper, “Would you do me like that?” or “Can I ride you like that?” Before you know it, you’re having amazing sex and feeling pretty good in the afterglow. That’s just one of porn’s many superpowers.
Greater Intimacy
Watching your partner respond when they get turned on can be hot, but it’s also something that brings you closer together. It’s like you pulled back the curtain even more on their most secret place. You might not have known that latex bodysuits turned them on or that they had a secret fantasy about a threesome. Now you do because your partner let you in close enough to share that with you.
On the other side, now your partner knows something new about you. They see you through a different lens, knowing you’re the person who really likes this kinky thing or that sexy something. You’ve let them in a little closer, and you’ll both benefit from it.
Find Out What You Both Like
Maybe the diaper wearing thing turns your partner on, but does nothing for you. You might love watching pegging, but your partner would rather not. That can feel discouraging, but since there’s porn for every imaginable fantasy, keep looking. When you find what you both enjoy in porn, it’s like hitting the jackpot.
The next thing you know, both of you have a hand between your legs or you’ve forgotten the video because you’re all over each other. Finding what you both like gives you a new direction to explore and something else to try which only fuels your sexual exploration together.
Foreplay Help
Maybe you don’t actually need help in this department, but even the hottest relationships can fall into a rut. If you always touch your partner right there, and they always kiss you like that, eventually, it becomes routine and boring. Turn on porn you both like, and not only are you turned on, you may find that you reach for your partner in mid-scene, quickly forgetting you meant to watch a clip.
You can recreate what you just watched or you can let the sexual charge of the moment carry you away. Your body will be primed and ready for whatever happens next which may be new and fun or just a hotter version of your Wednesday night sex. Either way, porn helped you get there.
Because You Like It
Never underestimate the power of just doing something because you want to. You like porn. Your partner likes porn. Watch it together. Don’t let it be your dirty little secret or something you feel ashamed about. You’re both adults enjoying something that the vast majority of the internet loves. There’s no shame in watching porn, and even less in watching it together. You’ll have better sex, get turned on, and learn things about each other you didn’t know.
The only way the stigma against porn ends is if people begin to own their desires and the things they enjoy. If you’ve tried watching porn in the past and just didn’t like it, it’s possible that you don’t get off on visual stimulation. But it’s equally possible you haven’t found what you like yet, either. What may really surprise you is that you might enjoy a different kind of porn with your partner because it fuels your desires and let’s you build on your fantasies.
Conclusion
Your first hurdle may be admitting your porn habit to your partner. That’s a big deal. If you can get through that, and your partner is willing, try watching it together. You’ll learn more about each other, potentially grow closer together, and if you’re both into what’s on your screen, have much better sex.
Do you watch porn with your partner? Why or why not? Share in the comments below!
