Even if you’re not familiar with rimming as a sexual activity, you’ve probably heard of it by another name — tossed salad, butt stuff, eating ass, anilingus, oral and anal contact. It goes by so many names, but basically, rimming is oral sex for the booty. You can do it with or without anal sex toys — ultimately, all you need is a clean butt and a willing tongue.
Curious about rimming? There’s nothing like a good rim job.
Talk About It First
Just like there is no “Oops” in anal penetration, there’s no accidental rim job. Before you stick your tongue up your partner’s anus, make sure they’re okay with it. And if you’re desperate to receive some anal sphincter oral sex, talk about it with your partner about bum fun. You might have to help them get over their ick factor, and it might be a sex act you ease into. But the only way it’s okay is if everyone consents. The best part is people of all sexual orientations take part in butt stuff.
Clean It Up Back There!
Just like no one wants to go down on a swampy crotch, no one wants to go down on a stinky butt. At the bare minimum, wipe your butt with an antibacterial wipe or flushable wipe. Better yet, take a shower, clean your butt with antibacterial soap, and then wipe just before you get started. Toilet paper isn’t enough for this job, especially since the majority of people have hair on their anus. And stuff can get caught in there. Not the kind of thing someone wants to put their mouth on during anal play as this sexual act takes some preperation.
Do you need to do an enema or go through a big cleaning process like you might for anal penetration? Anal douche if it makes you or your partner more comfortable or you think rimming might lead to something else.
Protect Yourself and Your Sexual Partner
Dental dams are your friend in any kind of oral play, but especially rimming. Certain sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be easily spread during anilingus, including herpes, as well as other gastrointestinal infections through feces. Dental dams are a sheet of latex (or a non-latex alternative) that acts as a barrier between butt and tongue. Apply a bit of lube on the skin, place the dental dam over the anal cavity, and start licking.
Anal Sex Toys or Not?
Not every sexual activity requires a sex toy, not even rimming. But if you’re already down with booty play, rimming might be icing on the kinky cake of sexual arousal.
- Lick the delicate skin of their butt around the base of an anal plug.
- Move a dildo in and out during anal penetration while you tease their booty with your tongue.
- Start with rimming and end with pegging — or switch back and forth!
Just like other forms of sexy fun, anal sex toys can enhance the moment. To look at it another way, when you’re playing with butt plugs and other toys for adults, rimming can make the moment even better.
Find a Good Position
When it comes to oral pleasure, there is no single right position for a rim job. It’s about whatever feels good to you. Start by caressing the inner thighs and make your way to the anal area. Doggy style is very common because it’s easier to open up back there. The lower your partner can bend over, the wider everything spreads. But that’s not always comfortable, so experiment with missionary, being on your knees, or in other positions. If your tongue can reach, and you’re both comfortable, it’s a good position.
How to Rim Your Partner
If butts are clean, consent is gained, and protection has been considered, now it’s time to actually lick the booty. So how do you do it? First, always listen to your partner and check in with, “Do you like this?” or “Should I keep going?” Second, don’t dive in like you’re in a race. This isn’t a competition for how quickly you can stick your tongue up their butt.
Start slow with long or short licks. If your partner is new to receiving, switch up techniques to find what they like. Pay attention to their body language and the noises they make (if they make any). Add flavored lube if that makes it more fun for you or your partner. Put your mouth over their entire anus and push your tongue in. But remember, oral contact doesn’t have to involve penetration. Use your hands — on their butt and in other places you can reach. All sex, including rimming, is a full contact sport so don’t rely just on your tongue to do all the work.
Conclusion
Rimming isn’t for everyone, and some people will never get over their feeling of, “Ewww!” But it’s also more common than you might realize. Why? Because the anus is a sensitive part of the body and a lot of people like how it feels when it’s touched just right. If you’re curious about rimming — giving or receiving — talk to your partner about it. They might be curious too, and you never know until you start the conversation.
Have you ever tried rimming? Would you? Let us know down in the comments!
