If getting kinky is on your sexual bucket list — and your partner is willing — there’s no better time than right now to get started. But if you’re looking for a way to make Valentine’s Day special and memorable, turn what might otherwise be a typical night of sex into something new and exciting. Pick out your favorite bondage gear and kinky toys, and mix and match any of these ideas that appeal to your mutual sense of sexy adventure!
Consent First
Anything you do with a partner must be consensual, especially kinky activities that involve power, control, and new sensations, including pain. If kink is new to you both, talk about it, do a little research, and practice using any toys you buy first. Both of you have to be into it for this to be good, and either of you can say no at any point.
Kinky Valentine’s Day Ideas
Remember, most things are only kinky the first time you try them, and not all kink has to involve pain. Soft touches, sweet kisses, and blissful pleasure are all a part of the kinky experience for many people. Pick and choose what appeals to you from this list or use our list as inspiration for other sexy fun to try.
- Masturbate at work and send your partner pictures of wet panties or sticky fingers.
- Guys, wear sexy lingerie under your street clothes. Bonus: send your partner a picture during the day.
- Go commando and wear loose fitting clothes. If you like wearing a skirt (and weather permits), wear one today especially. Hope that it’s not windy — or hope that it is.
- Edge yourself to the point of orgasm multiple times, but don’t come. Wait until you’re with your partner to orgasm. Maybe even ask their permission first.
- Take turns giving each other a spanking. Even if you’re usually the giver of spankings, it helps you learn the sensations and can be an interesting way to play.
- Wear a vibrator in a public place. Ben wa balls are great for vulvas, and vibrating panties will work for anyone as long as they fit your body.
- Hand your partner the control for the vibrator you’re wearing in public. Some sex toys work from a mobile app and Bluetooth, making this even easier and no one will suspect a thing, unless you start moaning.
- Take turns restraining each other to the bed and teasing each other with pleasure. You can use under-the-bed restraints, ties, rope, bondage tape, or handcuffs. Even if you usually prefer to be in control, it can be a sensual and interesting experience.
- Pull out ice cubes and candles for wax play. You get a mix of sensations from hot and cold. Drip either or both along the most sensitive parts of your partner’s body.
- Tie your partner down and give them an erotic massage. You can use sensual oils or massage candles for added stimulation.
- Tie your partner down and touch every part of their body except their penis or vulva. Tweak nipples, rake your nails over their stomach, kiss their neck. But ignore the one part they’ll be begging you to touch…until you’re ready for more.
- Try new kinky toys like ball gags, nipple clamps, or chastity cages — or a combination. Clamps can also be made for the clitoris, too, so don’t forget that hot spot.
- For spanking lovers, try a crop, a paddle, or a flogger. Each offers completely new sensations different from your hand. You don’t have to hit hard to make an impact (pun definitely intended).
- Take pictures of each other while you’re trying these kinky things so you can enjoy the memory and the moment later, too. (Only do this with someone you trust completely. Revenge porn is a real threat.)
- Explore anal play for the first time. From butt plugs to anal probes to prostate massagers and dildos, there are a lot of ways to play. Remember the lube and go slow to avoid pain.
Conclusion
You can take your kinky fun as far as your partner consents to taking it. Both of you can switch up who has control over the other and the sexy fun stuff you do. Remember that neither of you should be forced or pressured into trying something you’re not into. This is supposed to be a Valentine’s Day (or night) to remember.
Focus on your mutual pleasure and try something you’re both curious about. If it works out, great, keep doing it! And if it doesn’t try something else on the list. This is a moment to play and have very adult, kinky fun.
Do you have kinky plans for Valentine’s Day? Comment below!
