Sex should be fun. Whether you like a little kink, or you’re happy with strictly vanilla sex, there are lots of things you can do to ensure that your sex life stays fun and vibrant, no matter how long you’ve been together with your partner.
Many couples feel intimidated by sex toys and may not understand how much dildos can improve your sex life together. With a variety of styles, colors, and features, dildos are a fun, versatile way to bring you closer together and introduce a whole new range of bedroom sensations.
Here’s some real talk on choosing a dildo to use together..
Not Just for Masturbating
Although dildos are commonly used for masturbatory purposes, a growing number of couples are discovering the many ways in which they can be beneficial in a sexual relationship. Not only can a dildo help improve your understanding of what turns you (and your partner) on, it can also provide a safe way to introduce a little kink in the bedroom. It also helps foster greater intimacy between you and your partner. From slim beginner anal dildos to monster “King Dongs,” there’s a dildo right for every couple and every sexual scenario.
Finding the Right Dildo for You
There are so many different types of dildos that deciding on one that’s right for you can feel a little daunting, especially if you haven’t had a lot of experience with sex toys. Here are a few tips on different dildo types, to help you make a more informed decision.
- Beginner class – Smaller, slimmer dildos are often chosen by inexperienced couples, simply because they look less “frightening” than some of the other options. However, if you’re going to be using it for both of you, it’s important to get the right size. Slim dildos are typically for anal play, and lack the girth of dildos meant for vaginal penetration.
- Lifelike options – Some dildos are made to offer a more realistic feel and experience. These are typically constructed from pliable materials that mimic flesh, and often have a realistic look, incorporating veins and a scrotum. These dildos can be used on both partners, especially if you’re already into anal play. The Boy in Blue dildo, for example, is a lifelike option that comes with a suction cup. This type of dildo can often be used in tandem with a strap-on harness for couples who might like to try pegging.
- Exotic toys – While there are multiple options for lifelike toys, there are easily as many when it comes to exotic toys like the Power Stud Over and Under. This type of dildo isn’t really meant to be used on both partners, as it’s specially made for simultaneous vaginal and anal penetration of a woman. There are many exotic options that can be used for both partners, though. It’s really about your comfort level with toys that may look a bit wilder than the lifelike options.
The Low-Down on Kink
At Jack and Jill, we understand that it can be tough to keep great sex going with the same partner over the long term. Introducing a bit of spice and kink is a great way to kick things into a higher gear. It only works if you’re not afraid of it, though.
You and your partner, being in a long-term relationship, should already have this basic foundation, making it easier to explore the kinkier realms without fear. The key is communication. Exploring each other and using a dildo to improve your understanding of your partner’s likes and dislikes can be as kinky, or as vanilla, as you like. Your comfort level determines how far you go… together.
