Too many people wonder if masturbating regularly is a bad thing, and some worry that getting off with sex toys most of the time will cause harm or desensitize them. We think masturbation — with sex toys or your hand — is wonderful! And there’s a real argument to be made for why giving yourself regular orgasms with your sex toys is a great idea!
Regular Masturbation for the Win
Let’s start with the first part of this question. Masturbating regularly doesn’t mean you’re a sex addict, and it’s not the same as cheating on a partner. (Yes, people really think that.) In reality, masturbation offers a lot of benefits like reduced stress and anxiety, better sleep, and all the good things that happen when you orgasm. Orgasms release feel good hormones into your body that also reduce stress and help you sleep.
So if you’re not already getting off on a regular basis, start there. How often should you masturbate? As often as you want! Is there a right amount? Not really. Whatever fits into your schedule, feels good, and doesn’t interfere negatively with your life. For some people that’s once a day, and for others, that’s once a week.
Sex Toys Make Orgasms Easier
For some people, sex toys get them off faster and easier than their hand alone, especially once they find the right spot and the right setting or speed. There’s nothing wrong with using your hand, especially if you really enjoy the feeling. But if the thing stopping you from masturbating regularly is how long it takes to get off, a sex toy speeds things up.
Sex toys provide different, new, and/or more intense stimulation. They’re not automatically better than your hand; they’re just different. Vibrators have multiple patterns and speeds to choose from. Masturbation strokers create life-like sensations that your hand can’t. Butt plugs and other anal toys stimulate parts of you that you might not be able to reach while your hands are occupied.
Self-Exploration Leads to Self-Discovery
The more in touch (pun intended) you are with yourself and your desires, the easier it can be to explore what turns you on. Masturbation isn’t the only way to do that, but it’s a great option whether you’re single or in a relationship. You can do it at almost anytime — day or night, and without needing a lot of setup or preparation. Jump in bed or the shower, grab a favorite toy (or not), and get yourself off.
In the process of all this, you might touch yourself in a way you didn’t expect or plan to. Your body may respond positively to a setting on a sex toy you didn’t think you’d like. While you’re masturbating, your mind might wander and fantasize in a new way. All of this happens because you’ve made the time to focus on your own sexual pleasure. When you spend time getting yourself off and trying new things in the process, you give yourself space to experiment and discover what you enjoy — and what you don’t.
Technically, You Can Get Used to Sex Toys
One reason people worry about using their sex toy too often, especially for masturbation, is due to concerns of becoming de-sensitized to the stimulation. This is especially true with high-powered vibrators, but guys who use strokers sometimes worry about the same thing.
Can you get used to how a sex toy makes you feel? It’s possible, especially if you use the same intensity or settings every time. But it’s not something that happens quickly or to everyone. If it’s a concern of yours, switch up your masturbation habits every so often. Use different toys. Use your hand instead. Change the settings or your own speed. You can keep things new and exciting and avoid growing too accustomed to your sex toys or even your hand fairly easily.
Conclusion
So back to the question at the top. Should you make masturbation with sex toys a habit? If you want to get off more, relax and de-stress, and enjoy yourself, the answer is a resounding yes. You don’t need to masturbate all the time for it to be a habit. It simply needs to fit into your life, not the other way around. But if you do, you may discover a lot of benefits and plenty of sexy fun you didn’t realize were possible.
Do you regularly masturbate with your sex toys? Let us know down in the comments!
