Since sexuality is one of the backbones of any romantic relationship, you may be looking for a way to enhance yours. One great way to do this can be to incorporate sex toys into your relationship. However, you may be wondering how to introduce the idea to your partner.
Research Your Options Alone
If you want to convince your partner that sex toys will enhance your relationship the first step is to find out as much information about them as you can. You should have a rough idea of the toys you are most interested in before mentioning the subject to your partner. The more you know about the subject the easier it will be to convince your partner to give it a try.
Mention Seeing/Reading About Sex Toys
Sex toys are pretty prevalent in today’s world. Whether you walk into an adult video store or a novelty store in the mall, you are almost guaranteed to see them all around you. Mentioning this to your partner is a good way to bring up the subject casually. You can then ask he or she if they are willing to give sex toys a try. Introducing the idea as something you are curious about should avoid making your partner feel like your sex life is inadequate.
Go Shopping Together
Shopping for sex toys can bring you and your partner together as you see what options you have and try to determine which toy or toys will be the best for you. By shopping together, neither of you has to feel awkward about the subject. As long as you are open minded shopping for your first sex toy can be an eye opening experience.
If you and your partner are not comfortable with the idea of shopping for sex toys at a novelty or adult store, shopping online is a better idea. You can view pictures and reviews of every sex toy imaginable when you shop online.
You may decide that you want to start with something as simple as a vibrator or dildo. Though vibrators are all similar, when it comes to dildos you can get the single side or double sided dildo. To use this toy together, a double sided dildo will suit your needs better. Since it comes with two insertable ends you will find that it should add to the pleasure you and your partner experience in the bedroom. In general, dildos bring you more pleasure in the bedroom than a vibrator will. However, if your partner is hesitant about sex toys introducing them to a vibrator may be the best first step in getting them to appreciate having the option.
While many people are under the impression that vibrators are designed solely for the pleasure of women, the truth is that vibrators are also great at pleasing men. Many men enjoy the sensation of a vibrator against the tip of their penis. Vibrators can also pleasure a man by massaging his scrotum and his perinium, located between the base of the penis and the anus.
There are other toys you can shop around for that can be used for both of you. The toy you choose ultimately depends on what both of you enjoy in the bedroom. Any toy that you both feel you can have fun with is the right choice. Being able to experiment with several different toys until you find the perfect one may help your partner see how fun they are and how much you can do with them.
Introducing this into your relationship is a process. It should involve several test runs of any toy new to you or your partner. The first time you use one you may not be as relaxed as you should be and that could negatively affect how much you enjoy the experience. If you and your partner try a particular toy several times and do not begin to enjoy using it, keep trying until you find just the right one.
Start With Small Toys
Toys such as vibrators make a great first choice because they are one of the smaller ones. Egg type vibrators are the ideal toy to introduce in the bedroom because they are excellent at stimulating the clitoris. For a woman who may be hesitant when it comes to sex toys, this type of vibrator can be comforting. Rabbit vibrators in the bedroom can also give a woman a great deal of pleasure.
These are some of the ways in which both of you can benefit from a small vibrator:
- take turns using it on each other and see how much it excites one of you or both of you
- use it while your partner is pleasuring you
- by reaching climax at the same time (or at all, in her case)
Any woman that has trouble climaxing during sexual activity should realize that a vibrator could be the answer to all of her problems. When it stimulates the clitoris and g-spot, climax is practically guaranteed.
Understanding The Benefit Of Sex Toys
If you are a woman and your partner doesn’t understand why a vibrator is so beneficial for you, it is your job to make him understand. An honest conversation between you and your partner can clear up any misconceptions that you are using the vibrator because he can’t please you sexually. The more both of you understand the benefits of sex toys the easier it will be to integrate them into your relationship.
Conclusion
Every relationship occasionally needs some spicing up in the bedroom. Most couples agree that sex toys are the best choice for heating up between-the-sheets action.
Introducing these toys into a relationship should be a liberating experience. The freedom to experiment with various toys until you find the one you enjoy the most will help reconnect you and your partner when your sex life begins to feel stale.
As long as you and your partner are honest with each other about the subject, adult toys will only enhance your relationship.
