For plenty of people, masturbation is that thing you do when you’re bored, lonely, tired, don’t want to get out of bed, can’t sleep, or wish you could have sex but your partner isn’t into it. For all the reasons you masturbate, many people have a routine for how they masturbate. Same time of day. Usual position. Your regular technique. Nothing changes. It’s comforting and easy. Masturbation isn’t supposed to be hard work so doing what works just makes sense.
Except that it gets boring. Sometimes your body doesn’t respond as well to the stimulation anymore. When you’re normal wank won’t do, it’s time to try something different.
Use Your Other Hand
Your masturbation habit is probably years old. You’ve done it the same way – strokes, speed, pressure – for as long as you can remember. Using your other hand will feel really awkward at first. You won’t quite know how to touch yourself with that hand. But you’ll also get new sensations, too.
Your non-dominant hand will feel different. It won’t be as strong. Your body will be touched from a new angle and direction. Plus, your brain will process the information differently. No, it won’t be as smooth and sure as your usual wank, but it will be something completely different.
Add a Sex Toy
Maybe you’ve only ever used your hand to get off. Now is the time to try a sex toy. No matter what gender you are, you’ve got options. Small, discreet sex toys, vibrators that work with an app on your phone, or anal toys to add sensation in a new way – the possibilities are limitless.
Guys, don’t think that sex toys are just for women. Masturbation sleeves and Fleshlights are some of the more common sex toys you can try. There’s nothing wrong with using a vibrator or wand massager, too. The whole point is to create new sensations for a better wanking experience.
Switch Fantasies
Do you always imagine a certain movie or music star when you wank? Or are you thinking of your partner? Maybe you just like to imagine a stranger watching you. You might be thinking about that hot barista you see every morning. It’s all sexy, but even those fantasies can become a little predictable.
The next time you’re naked with yourself, let your mind play a forbidden fantasy. A coworker or your boss that you’d never approach? Your friend’s mom (or dad)? As long as it turns you on, let yourself go and enjoy it. Fantasizing about someone isn’t the same as approaching them. If the fantasy is a little inappropriate that only adds to the excitement, and no one has to know as long as it stays in your head and your wank.
Change Places
Routines happen to the best of us, even when it’s your masturbation habit. For some, it’s same time every day, in the same position, in bed, under the covers. Others masturbate in the shower or the bathroom every time. You can set a clock by when and where you’re masturbating.
Now is the time to rub one out somewhere else. No, don’t masturbate in public where people can see – that’s illegal and non-consensual. If you’re the bedroom type, try the shower. The shower masturbators might want to try a comfortable chair in the living room. Of course, make sure no one else is home or that your partner is prepared to watch you wank in a new spot.
Masturbate for Your Partner
While there’s nothing wrong with masturbating alone, there’s also nothing wrong with masturbating for your partner. Make sure they’re okay with the idea – maybe it’s a fantasy for both of you. Get ready, get comfortable, and take a deep breath. It’s not always easy to masturbate in front of someone for the first time.
Any self-conscious feelings you have will likely go away once you start feeling good. Don’t be afraid to make noise or move around. You’re giving yourself pleasure, of course, but the show is also for your partner. Let them watch you make yourself feel good; let them hear it. You never know, they may start masturbating too or jump in bed with you.
Conclusion
Masturbating can be as comfortable as an old chair that you’ve had for years. There’s nothing wrong with comfort and routine. But if you feel like you’re not getting yourself off like you used to, you probably just need to change things up and wank in a different way. You never know how good you can make yourself feel until you try.
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